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I've worked with rehab and people in recovery. They often want to grab the outlines of "normal" life, like marriage or family or whatever they feel they missed with substance abuse. Sometimes they think that living a normal life will help them to get or stay sober. I think OP is smart to wait for at least a year of sobriety before making any big decisions. At least a year.
Wait until he's sober as long as you need him to be, to know he's committed. Wait until you are married or at least very, very seriously together. Make sure you are ready. No, you don't have to feel as though you are "financially ready" because most people aren't and you can make it work, but make sure you're both working, acting like adults, ready for the committment to the mission. Because seriously, you lease your life to another person for 18 years. I have two sons and sometimes it feels like a prison sentence, no matter now much I adore them. Seriously. Make sure you're both prepared mentally and emotionally for THAT.
Now the flipside. It's glorious to be pregnant, and many women (I was one) get some serious happy happy hormones that turn you into something of sex maniac, so frankly if he hangs in there and you hang in there, it may wind up being worth it to both of you...but um...he might want to do it again! Don't breed up too big a brood, eh, just to satisfy your frisky sides. And having a baby can be amazing, when you smile so much at this tiny person your face hurts, just to see them smile back, and as little kids they are hilarious, as teens you get to be proud of all the cool stuff they learn to do as they become PEOPLE. There's a lot of awesome about having children. But also a lot of hard work, obligation, and stress.
And yes, your bosoms will get bigger than your head for a while. Especially if you breastfeed. Have fun with that. I found it pretty hilarious, myself...
So bottom line, don't write it off as being too weird, but definitely wait until you're both ready to be parents. If you get there, and it happens, then enjoy it and enjoy him enjoying it!
Aren't you too old to have children, already? And why would you risk passing on alcoholic genes to the next generation?
Nope still fertile. So what if I passed on alcoholic genes, not any worse than passing on immoral genes. Any kid we would have would have two parents and not born on welfare.
Wanting your partner's breasts to get bigger seems like a good reason to want to raise a child, especially when you are barely sober. Hang on to this one, OP! Sounds like a winner.
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