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Old 03-11-2015, 09:22 AM
 
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Stop asking us and asking him. If he won't "admit his feelings," then why would you waste time on him?
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:28 AM
 
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What does "working toward exclusivity" mean? There is no gray "sort of quasi-exclusive" area. You're either exclusive or you aren't. If you were genuinely interested in being his girlfriend, you probably blew it with the hard-to-get routine. Both of you are saying one thing and doing another.
Not quite sure, when he said that it was news to me. knows my ex is still in the picture. A few weeks ago he said he thought this could be more, he then found out that my ex was still in the picture then said he wasn't thinking like that right now, then at the bar said working towards being exclusive. My friends said who wants to be exclusive with someone right at that moment who's ex of 4 years is still in the picture, to which I replied no one. He keeps saying he isn't worried about my ex he just asks about him because he's "curious". As soon as the guy that I was talking to at the bar walked away he immediately asked if that was my ex, 20 min after having sex he asked if I was texting him to which I said no and he wanted to look at my phone to see if I was lying.
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:29 AM
 
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Geez, and I thought I was bad...

[Slow golf clap]
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:29 AM
 
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Do you want us to call him and ask him?
Sure why not.
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:32 AM
 
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If you really care about someone you won't have the need to "ignore him" while you flirt with other guys right under his nose. Having been on the receiving end of this kind of behavior I know how much it hurts.

Maybe you will find someone down the road who you will not want to play games with and instead treat them with love and respect.
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:33 AM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Sure why not.
Give us his phone number. We'll call him and ask him what the deal is. Do you want us to call your ex, too? Anything you want us to tell him or find out from him?
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Old 03-11-2015, 09:50 AM
 
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stop playing games if you want serious results...

You did it to yourself and you're contuining to do it by letting him contuine with you from this point onwards.

Take a step back and look at everything objectively and ask yourself if you really want someone like him just becuase he may have feelings for you
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:53 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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He knows my ex is still in the picture.
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Old 03-11-2015, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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Lawdy.

If you had an actual relationship with this guy, he'd be jealous and possessive and looking for an excuse to control your contact with others, wanting to know where you are and who you're with at all times, and generally a real pain.

And sad to break the news to you, but as glorious an arrangement as it may seem on its face, "friends with benefits" almost never works out. Because sooner or later, one person in the match tends to want more...more feelings, more exclusivity, more...just more. And the other does not care. One person gets clingy, the other has all the power, and normally uses it to inflict pain. Even if you think you're detached enough to just go on as friends, wait until he finds "the one"...a girl he adores and wants to really, really be with. And suddenly, your friendship is toast. You're shut out.

It stinks because the initial phases of a FWB thing feel so awesome. You get all the thrills and chills with supposedly none of the baggage or rules. But then, usually after you get your swerve on, it blows up in your face in one manner or another.
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Old 03-11-2015, 02:37 PM
 
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What is it with young men and women playing games with each-other?
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