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Long story short met this guy in November. I like him a lot but we both played a lot if games with (won't go into details) each other, which I started unfortunately. He said he thought it could be more between us. Last weekend saw him while I was out I completely ignored him and talked to other guys while he was there because we agreed not to get jealous.I was giving my number to another guy and he comes up and said "she's not going to call you bro, she's coming home with me". I said no I'm not and I started to walk away and meanwhile another guy is trying to talk to me and I look back and the guy I like is following me. He gets incredibly angry and says he wants to knock the other guy out, I said but "we're not exclusive like you said remember?" He said I thought we were working towards being exclusive and kept begging me to come home with him, but I said no and went home.*
He called me 4 times, texted me which I all ignored, he asked for me to come over I said no. I didn't hear from all week after that the then tells me we should stop hanging out because he doesn't want to hurt me, this won't ever be more and that we could be just friends with benefits because he's going to continue to see other girls. I am so in shock right now and just hurt and confused. What happened? Is there a way to fix this?
**I slept with him for the first time two days before ignoring him at the bar**
Side note, he NEVER admits to his feelings, even when he wanted to knock out the guy at the bar he still wouldn't admit that he was jealous/didn't like me talking to other guys. He always asks me about my ex and other guys who I am texting but just says he's asking not because he cares but because he's "curious" which I know isn't true. My friends said that he seems insecure.
Did I just severely hurt his ego or what? What happened? How do I fix this?
You don't. He told you he never wants to be exclusive. He was being a caveman at the bar because you were getting attention. He wants his ego stroked by you being infatuated with him, but he wants to see other girls.
Relationships can move forward but they can't move backward. You both have played too many ridiculous high school games for this to ever work, anyway. Time to move on.
You don't. He told you he never wants to be exclusive. He was being a caveman at the bar because you were getting attention. He wants his ego stroked by you being infatuated with him, but he wants to see other girls.
Relationships can move forward but they can't move backward. You both have played too many ridiculous high school games for this to ever work, anyway. Time to move on.
Well he said we working towards it then I proceeded to ignore him at the bar.
I am so in shock right now and just hurt and confused. What happened?
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I'm very surprised that you feel shocked and confused. What happened???? read your post again. It's pretty easy to see what happened.
Seems (from what I read) you made it VERY clear that he's not someone you'd be interested in building a committed relationship with.
It's easy to understand why he's said what he did....maybe you should both cut out the silly head games.
Well he said we working towards it then I proceeded to ignore him at the bar.
Yeah and he changed his mind. These little games may work in dumb books like The Rules, but in real life if you aren't honest with your partner, things aren't going to go well.
What does "working toward exclusivity" mean? There is no gray "sort of quasi-exclusive" area. You're either exclusive or you aren't. If you were genuinely interested in being his girlfriend, you probably blew it with the hard-to-get routine. Both of you are saying one thing and doing another.
I'm very surprised that you feel shocked and confused. What happened???? read your post again. It's pretty easy to see what happened.
Seems (from what I read) you made it VERY clear that he's not someone you'd be interested in building a committed relationship with.
It's easy to understand why he's said what he did....maybe you should both cut out the silly head games.
I'm trying to but he never admits to his feelings and I'm not sure if it's an ego thing with him. He even asked if one of the guys at the bar was my ex as soon as the guy walked away but claims my ex doesn't bother him. After having sex 20 min after he kept asking if I was texting my ex but still continues to just say he only asks because he's curious. Is he just angry and or is his ego shot right now?
Stop asking us and asking him. If he won't "admit his feelings," then why would you waste time on him?
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