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Old 03-11-2015, 12:46 PM
 
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Not really... Then again I don't know that men will say out loud what there expectations are but I did have one guy that told me I was beautiful or "bad" as he called it and he compared me to a celeb women he favors and added like she has the perfect body too and she has c cups-I prefer c cups. Well being that I have B cups that obviously meant that I didn't meet the criteria. I understood it because he told me when we met that he was a breasts man but I wondered why he wanted to date me. Other guys I've talked to acted strange about me working out, on one hand they appreciated it on the other if for whatever reason my weight would go down and i would get slimmer they would freak out and say I needed to stay thick, even going as far as trying to discourage me from eating less. It seemed stupid. Not necessarily unrealistic though.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:07 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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$100K is fairly reasonable if they live in a major city, just not if they are still dating recent college grads.
The average annual salary in the US is approximately half that.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:17 PM
 
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It's not that much money if you live in a major city. Who do you think is buying the $500-$700K houses?
http://www.city-data.com/city/San-Fr...alifornia.html

Median household income in 2012: $73k
Median house value in 2012: $728k

http://www.city-data.com/city/New-York-New-York.html

Median household income: $51k
Median house value: $478k

Maybe in an affluent suburb or smaller city, like Newport Beach, but not in what I would call a major city, no. I live in a suburb with lots of homes in that price range, but they are inhabited by families, not dating singles. Also, our median household income in my town does barely top $100k, but that includes a lot of working spouses like me. I have no idea but would be willing to bet that the large majority of men who make over $100k a year are already married--and that they made less than $100k when they got married.

If you don't think requiring a man to make $100k in order to be datable is ludicrous, okay. There will be different opinions about it.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:18 PM
 
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What is it about you that attracts this type of woman? Maybe you should do do self-examination because if you have been in a relationship with more than one that expects a man to meet all of these requirements, there is something going on with you being attracted to them in the first place.
The woman had really great humor goals looks personality soon as I wanted to date them and or was in a relationship with them what they wanted and expected drove me toto think
What the hell am i dealing with?
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:27 PM
 
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http://www.city-data.com/city/San-Fr...alifornia.html

Median household income in 2012: $73k
Median house value in 2012: $728k

http://www.city-data.com/city/New-York-New-York.html

Median household income: $51k
Median house value: $478k

Maybe in an affluent suburb or smaller city, like Newport Beach, but not in what I would call a major city, no. I live in a suburb with lots of homes in that price range, but they are inhabited by families, not dating singles. Also, our median household income in my town does barely top $100k, but that includes a lot of working spouses like me.
That's why you have to exclude the non college educated, students, the recently graduated, the retired, etc.

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If you don't think requiring a man to make $100k in order to be datable is ludicrous, okay. There will be different opinions about it.
It's not that much. You can make more than that running your own liquor store or dry cleaner.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:28 PM
 
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The average annual salary in the US is approximately half that.
Most of whom do not even have a degree and that figure includes students and the retired.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:36 PM
 
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A salary requirement as a prerequisite just screams "I am looking for someone to take care of me."
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The $100k requirement is just out there in Lalaland. How old were these women? Did they have jobs? How bizarre.
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Old 03-11-2015, 01:57 PM
 
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That's why you have to exclude the non college educated, students, the recently graduated, the retired, etc.

It's not that much. You can make more than that running your own liquor store or dry cleaner.
I think most men who do that are already married or divorced at least once. Dry cleaners are classic examples of a "mom and pop," don't you think?
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Old 03-11-2015, 02:00 PM
 
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No it isn't. Very few people make that kind of money.
My exes all made that kind of money. And we are not talking professionals, try two diesel mechanics and a truck driver. I live in the North East.
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Old 03-11-2015, 02:04 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Most of whom do not even have a degree and that figure includes students and the retired.
Ok, so as a requirement must live in a high cost of living metropolitan area and have a degree in a STEM field.

Those requirement would only work in select areas.
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