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I've been friends with this girl for maybe 6 months now, and we talk a lot, almost everyday. She initiates a lot back then, before I started liking her. She talks to me on all sorts of social media, Facebook, snapchat, gchat, email, etc.. u name it. I started liking her a few months ago. I've stayed over at her place a few times in same bed, but we never did anything. Lately, (past month or so), she lays really close to me when I stay over after drinking). Past couple weeks or so I've been sleeping over at her place or vice versa, but haven't kissed or anything. We've been slowly getting closer.. I started holding her hands, play with her hair, spooning her etc...
I've never really asked her out on an official date or anything. We hang out alone sometimes like studying and dinner etc..., but nothing was "date".
How do I move on from here... Have the where this is going talk? Ask her to be my girlfriend? etc..
Also to note, it wasn't until past couple weeks that I was getting sure she likes me. I always thought she was friendly to me, but when I started holding hands in bed, I became sure she's interested. We haven't done anything public or anything.
A first date comes before someone being a girlfriend.
Ask her out. Duh.
No, it doesn't. They are already hanging out. Next time they are in bed he can just kiss her and let things develop from there, but tbh I can't believe he isn't friend zoned yet.
No, it doesn't. They are already hanging out. Next time they are in bed he can just kiss her and let things develop from there, but tbh I can't believe he isn't friend zoned yet.
friend zoned.. don't think so. only held her hands for a week or so..
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I want to skip it and become exclusive.
I want a pony. I can't get one without taking the steps to get one.
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No, it doesn't. They are already hanging out. Next time they are in bed he can just kiss her and let things develop from there, but tbh I can't believe he isn't friend zoned yet.
If he wants to hook up, that's a fine way to go.
He wants to jump to the end, before starting the beginning.
You should try to kiss her, maybe next time you're in bed with her. Otherwise, you'll get friend zoned. Sleeping together without having sex is what friends, not lovers, do. If she resists, back up and ask her on an official date and stop sharing a bed with her. Make a move!
You are in a wierd no-mans land where you think an exclusive romantic relationship is going to suddenly happen all on it's own with no effort, conversation, etc.
People do not just share space and activities and suddenly have an exclusive romantic relationship. Dating is a process of not just meeting a stranger and knowing them, but to build a romantic relationship and chemistry which is above and beyond just hanging out as friends. It also usually comes with both people having an idea of the intentions of the other after some time (ie, wanting a romantic relationship and not just being friends).
You have a communication problem. If you want her to take you as serious boyfriend material, you need to ask her out on a date. Interject some romance into your relationship, and not just be her buddy and hope it materializes out of mid air.
I really would not recommend just making sexual moves even though you are getting more handsy. She may just assume you are developing a FWB situation without any further expectations. If you want her to be an exclusive gf, you need to treat her as one, and develop your romantic relationship along those lines so that it becomes one.
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