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You said that sufficient finances are necessary for a family to be happy and healthy. I don't disagree with that. I don't see, however, where both parents earning the same income is categorically necessary for finances to be sufficient.
There's nothing wrong with it. But it has nothing to do with whether or not you are "an equal."
No, what you implied I said was that a family with enough money is, by definition, a happy family. And that's not what I said at all.
This whole argument is really ridiculous, and for a person at my age (35) to run into a woman who is "aspiring" to be a stay-at-home mom is a possibility so remote that it's really approaching farce.
I've stated it several times, I want a financial equal as well. And you keep forgetting that I'm only talking about my own situation.
I make around $100K and I would want more than that for annual household income to raise a couple of kids.
So, really, where are these women that want to be SAHM's? I've never met one. What are they doing right now? Through their 20's and 30's?
I just don't get this scenario even playing out in real life.
Well, first off, I didn't imply anything, I directly quoted you and then contributed my own commentary. You said you need a certain amount of money to be happy/healthy, I don't disagree (though I don't believe that sufficient finances necessarily come from two parents pulling in an identical dollar amount). I never said anything about thinking that money is ALL a family needs to be healthy or happy.
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So, really, where are these women that want to be SAHM's? I've never met one. What are they doing right now? Through their 20's and 30's?
I just don't get this scenario even playing out in real life.
After my child is born, I'll be a SAHM for at least as long as it takes me to finish my graduate degree. Longer, if that is what my spouse and I determine, and depending on the needs of my child.
What I am I doing right now? Going to grad school full-time. Something we'd already planned for, whether we were able to start a family or not.
What did I do through my twenties and thirties to date? Worked full-time in my chosen field. Wasn't a parent.
Will I go back to work after becoming a parent? Yep, I plan to, given that my continued degree is something I'm completing specifically due to the type of work I do. Whether full time or part time and when are all decisions that will be made jointly with my spouse, based on what we feel is best for our family. I also plan to stay home with my child for whatever time period my family feels is best, possibly eventually work an abbreviated schedule with a smaller client caseload, which I'll have the flexibility to do, perhaps.
Just a slice of "real life" as it's playing out, here.
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Well, first off, I didn't imply anything, I directly quoted you and then contributed my own commentary. You said you need a certain amount of money to be happy/healthy, I don't disagree (though I don't believe that sufficient finances necessarily come from two parents pulling in an identical dollar amount). I never said anything about thinking that money is ALL a family needs to be healthy or happy.
After my child is born, I'll be a SAHM for at least as long as it takes me to finish my graduate degree. Longer, if that is what my spouse and I determine, and depending on the needs of my child.
What I am I doing right now? Going to grad school full-time. Something we'd already planned for, whether we were able to start a family or not.
What did I do through my twenties and thirties to date? Worked full-time in my chosen field. Wasn't a parent.
Will I go back to work after becoming a parent? Yep, I plan to, given that my continued degree is something I'm completing specifically due to the type of work I do. Whether full time or part time and when are all decisions that will be made jointly with my spouse, based on what we feel is best for our family. I also plan to stay home with my child for whatever time period my family feels is best, possibly eventually work an abbreviated schedule with a smaller client caseload, which I'll have the flexibility to do, perhaps.
Just a slice of "real life" as it's playing out, here.
Well, then you're actually not aspiring to be a SAHM. So you're not even who I'm talking about. You're going to do it short term because it makes sense on several different fronts.
That's not what I took the meaning of the thread to be.
Mainly? Because I can and it's free and it interests me.
If I get an opportunity to use it, career-wise, awesome, because it will open a variety of doors that my bachelor's alone will not. I imagine I will ultimately get the opportunity to use it, should I so choose, but it's not my first priority.
Mainly? Because I can and it's free and it interests me.
If I get an opportunity to use it, career-wise, awesome, because it will open a variety of doors that my bachelor's alone will not. I imagine I will ultimately get the opportunity to use it, should I so choose, but it's not my first priority.
Wow, must be nice. Being a stay-at-home spouse/parent is not really an option that most men get to even contemplate, much less exercise.
Well, then you're actually not aspiring to be a SAHM. So you're not even who I'm talking about. You're going to do it short term because it makes sense on several different fronts.
That's not what I took the meaning of the thread to be.
Are you talking about the women who never plan to work again? Yeah those women tend to be lazy but not the majority. I think most women who stay at home after a baby (and keep in mind most women don't stay at home)only do it for a few years, until perhaps the baby goes to school. Oddly, I've always been a career person but like the idea of staying at him after a birth. Then again I work at home and my boyfriend does too (we don't live together) so if we did have a baby the baby would have us both. However this right now is just something we discuss but won't think about unless we get married and have a baby (or adopt). I know a few women who never worked again, even when the kids are in school and they are lazy usually.
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