What Are Some Things That Should Be Discussed B4 A Threesome (dating, girlfriend)
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Threesome are one thing when it's between friends with benefits or people casually dating but more complicated when within a relationship. I hear people talk about how important communication and rules are before doing anything.
I was just curious anyone who has experiences with threesome preferably within a marriage or relationship and not just a hookup.
Curious any advice as far as what are some good rules to have going in?
Should you discuss the reason you want the threesome?
basically just curious any suggestions for things to discuss or questions to answer before diving in
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Discuss boundaries
Protection for specific activities
Disclosure of STD tests
Do this not the time of the 3some, but before, as a screening
And don't do it , generally, within a relationship (this is FB or FWB territory for emotional reasons), this is just my opinion on my very limited experiences
Discuss boundaries
Protection for specific activities
Disclosure of STD tests
Do this not the time of the 3some, but before, as a screening
And don't do it , generally, within a relationship (this is FB or FWB territory for emotional reasons), this is just my opinion on my very limited experiences
I agree with this. I'm in a relationship right now. As a guy I'm supposed to love the idea of two women at once but I honestly just don't want another woman, even if mine is involved.
Couldn't resist. If you haven't seen that episode, his intention was just to dump his girlfriend and date her roommate, but it didn't work out. Anyway, I think it plays on the notion that a threesome is one of those things that, when in a relationship, no matter how much you plan for it and discuss it beforehand, you can't anticipate what may happen either in discussing it, or what may happen afterward.
Should you discuss the reason you want the threesome?
This is a good place to start. Also (these are all rhetorical), do you want to seek one out, or do you just want to talk about it in case there's an opportunity someday? Is the other person male or female?
Something that is important to remember is that the third person is not a toy or robot, but someone with feelings and his or her own motives and life outside your play time. You may have your cozy relationship with your sweetheart, and the other person can feel like a third wheel. Don't use people. Be mindful of their feelings. Do not mess with people who have a crush on you or who are in a fragile place. Our friends are usually long-term couples for this reason. Everybody has somebody to love.
You need to talk about jealousy and really ponder how the experience will affect you. And you still won't really know. It's not like a fantasy where your imagination dictates what happens and how everyone reacts. We know several people in the lifestyle, and often the women get to pick the third.
As far as rules go, I'd say that anyone can veto the thing at any time with no hard feelings. Don't do things that would upset your sweetheart (discuss). Don't damage your primary relationship. Be honest with one another.
Nothing to discuss for me because I would not go near this.
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