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View Poll Results: Have you ever cheated on your significant other?
Yes 27 23.89%
No 86 76.11%
Voters: 113. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 03-24-2015, 10:39 AM
 
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I've never, ever cheated on anyone.
Especially the guy I was married to.
I have zero respect for cheaters, whether they're married or in a LTR....
There are no excuses.

Btw these days it seems harder than ever for people to be faithful to one person.
Why bother misrepresenting yourself to the opposite sex?
Just be upfront & tell any potential lovers that you're incapable of being in a one on one relationship.
Makes it much easier on everyone involved.
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Old 03-24-2015, 10:47 AM
 
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It's normal to get restless, and wonder "What if..." when you face temptation or get some attention from the opposite sex. But, it comes down to remembering who you have at home, and deciding if it's worth destroying that trust.
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No, but I'll be completely honest in that I understand the appeal.

I love my girlfriend and see myself with her for the rest of my life, but I admit I was a bit scared that she could be the last woman I ever sleep with. My girlfriend is very beautiful, but there are other women out there who, simply on an aesthetic level, fit certain fantasies better. She's still very much worth being exclusive to.

I can see how it's easy to disassociate simple, raw sex from anything else emotionally, and as such, one could think, "what she doesn't know doesn't hurt her," which, STDs aside, is true.

Not trying to justify anything... just musing.
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Old 03-24-2015, 01:23 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Yes, I have cheated. I was with a guy (not married) and we lived together. He was a heroin addict and either too high or too sober and cranky for sex and we did it once a year. So I cheated on him with during the course of 8 years. He never found out and I never told him.

Not proud of it and wouldn't do it again.
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Old 03-24-2015, 02:21 PM
 
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Never cheated, never will. If you have the ____ to cheat you should have the _____ to tell them you are done.

Every cheater has an excuse, but it's still cheating. Worse when it destroys a kids view of their mother/father. Kids are the ones who hurt the most.

Does anyone remember the "Golden Rule"?
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Old 03-24-2015, 02:31 PM
 
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Yes, I have cheated. I was with a guy (not married) and we lived together. He was a heroin addict and either too high or too sober and cranky for sex and we did it once a year. So I cheated on him with during the course of 8 years. He never found out and I never told him.

Not proud of it and wouldn't do it again.
Gotta ask. Wouldn't cheat or wouldn't spend 8 years with a heroin addict?
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Old 03-24-2015, 03:22 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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I have never cheated and if you have cheated, I think you're disrespectful scum. No excuse for cheating.
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Old 03-24-2015, 03:24 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Gotta ask. Wouldn't cheat or wouldn't spend 8 years with a heroin addict?

Both. Should have left after 3 months when he got high for the first time while we were together. He was sober for 2 years when we met. He threatened suicide every time I wanted to leave.

But of course he is still alive today.

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Old 03-24-2015, 03:37 PM
 
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Gosh..... All I see are a lot of excuses here.....
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Old 03-24-2015, 04:06 PM
 
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What do you want to hear? I said I wouldn't do it again.
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Old 03-24-2015, 04:08 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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And actually, I think that at least 1/3 of the city data users have cheated but they either don't speak up in this thread or they lie.


Infidelity Statistics | Statistic Brain

Marriage Infidelity StatisticsData
Percent of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional41 %
Percent of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had57 %
Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had54 %
Percent of married men who have strayed at least once during their married lives22 %
Percent of married women who have strayed at least once during their married lives14 %
Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker36 %
Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips35%
Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law17 %
Average length of an affair2 years
Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered31 %
Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught74 %
Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught68 %
Percent of children who are the product of infidelity3 %
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