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Old 03-23-2015, 07:32 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Despicable.

Your behavior is atrocious.
Yeah, they run.
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Old 03-24-2015, 01:10 AM
 
Location: My House
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Naturally. The oldest just spent the weekend with me. The youngest is still a baby but I visit him twice a week.

Yes, their mothers and I have a cordial relationship. No drama or fighting. I've always paid child support, don't know why people just assume I wouldn't.

I tell my dates exactly what I'm telling here.
Was a serious relationship with either of them ever an option? Do they have other kids by other men?
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Old 03-24-2015, 01:23 AM
 
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Despicable.

Your behavior is atrocious.
Yeah, they run.
Well the women agreed to it.
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Old 03-24-2015, 08:11 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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I'm 34 and I have two sons by different women. They are 4 and 8 months old and neither was planned. I was having casual relationships with their mothers and it happened. Not that I mind, they were born and I'm very happy they are here.

I'm having a sex-only affair with a woman right now but I occasionaly go on dates with other women. I find that many change their style the moment I tell them I have two children by two women. They get even more distant once they know I've never been married to either of them.

Never thought this would be a problem.

What would you say, ladies?
No thanks!

Too much drama, too much child support, lack of responsibility, and incapiblity to learn from mistakes.
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Old 03-24-2015, 09:08 AM
 
Location: Bronx
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From what I have seen it is mostly poor and highly uneducated women that don't mind dating guys with multiple baby mommas and also don't mind being the next baby momma. These women are not highly desired by any self respecting man so OP keep doing what your doing as I am sure they are not classy ladies.

This is what I have been saying in my previous comment. Its mainly poor, low class women who do not mind being with a man that the op is. Its going to be a while for him to find a decent woman that is young and has her head on her shoulder. A woman with a head on her shoulder is not going to go for a guy like the op. My only suggestion for the op is not to go after decent women with no kids, but on the flip side not to go for trashy, hoodrats, trailer park, ghetto women either. He is going to have to look for a bit older maybe wiser decent single mom who probably understand where he is coming from and see his or her mistakes in relationships and family making with other people some what relatable.
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Old 03-24-2015, 09:31 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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That would definitely have been a deal breaker for me. It shows a lack of responsibility, planning and judgement, IMO. It sounds like an episode of Teen Mom. I don't have time for that kind of nonsense.
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Old 03-24-2015, 09:34 AM
 
Location: Canada
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If you will look upon creating life with casualness, than I would have no respect for you.
I feel the same. To be so cavalier about sex and the creating of a human life is simply not compatible with who I am as a person. My ex-husband had three kids, all from the same woman he was married to and deliberately chose to have three children with. That's vastly different than casual and irresponsible sex that created lives.
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Old 03-24-2015, 09:50 AM
 
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I'm 34 and I have two sons by different women. They are 4 and 8 months old and neither was planned. I was having casual relationships with their mothers and it happened. Not that I mind, they were born and I'm very happy they are here.

I'm having a sex-only affair with a woman right now but I occasionaly go on dates with other women. I find that many change their style the moment I tell them I have two children by two women. They get even more distant once they know I've never been married to either of them.

Never thought this would be a problem.

What would you say, ladies?
In a nutshell, it's because you didn't just make a boneheaded mistake once. That can happen to anyone. You made a boneheaded mistake twice.

Two children, two sets of child support payments, and a serious lack of judgment.
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Old 03-24-2015, 11:25 AM
 
Location: Arlington, VA and Washington, DC
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I'm 34 and I have two sons by different women. They are 4 and 8 months old and neither was planned. I was having casual relationships with their mothers and it happened. Not that I mind, they were born and I'm very happy they are here.

I'm having a sex-only affair with a woman right now but I occasionaly go on dates with other women. I find that many change their style the moment I tell them I have two children by two women. They get even more distant once they know I've never been married to either of them.

Never thought this would be a problem.

What would you say, ladies?
Ask yourself if you want to date a woman with the same situation.
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Old 03-24-2015, 11:39 AM
 
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Low on Luck also has two kids by two different men, maybe those two could talk and you never know. I don't think Low on Luck is into casual relationships though.
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