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Old 03-23-2015, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Fredericksburg, VA
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A woman approached me once when my two boys wanted to pet her dog. After I thanked her she continued on her way, then doubled back and asked me if "their mom was a dog lover."

She found a potential common interest and used it to casually disguise her question. Now it didn't work for her of course, because "their mom" (aka "my wife") was very much a dog lover AND in the picture. That it didn't work in her case does not negate her approach was tactically sound.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:38 PM
 
Location: Pa
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A little to the left.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:38 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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A woman approached me once when my two boys wanted to pet her dog. After I thanked her she continued on her way, then doubled back and asked me if "their mom was a dog lover."

She found a potential common interest and used it to casually disguise her question. Now it didn't work for her of course, because "their mom" (aka "my wife") was very much a dog lover AND in the picture. That it didn't work in her case does not negate her approach was tactically sound.
Even still, I think that could be a good way to see if someone has an SO.

For example, my friend knows this cute girl, and I was talking to her when I met her a few months back. I asked her "I bet your boyfriend likes that about you", and she said he absolutely does.

I find that disguising your question can work well because then you find out if they're taken or not.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:39 PM
 
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A woman approached me once when my two boys wanted to pet her dog. After I thanked her she continued on her way, then doubled back and asked me if "their mom was a dog lover."

She found a potential common interest and used it to casually disguise her question. Now it didn't work for her of course, because "their mom" (aka "my wife") was very much a dog lover AND in the picture. That it didn't work in her case does not negate her approach was tactically sound.
Oh, that reminds me, OP.....walk/play with your dog, ideally a big one. Man bait. I know it's not advice on how to approach a guy, but holy crap, it helps in the "meeting men" department. I can't speak for all men, but I will come talk to you 100% of the time that you're walking a medium or larger dog, as long as you're not on your phone or with another guy.

Don't have a dog? Don't get one just to meet men. But this post is just one of a zillion examples of how much it works.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:49 PM
 
Location: Fredericksburg, VA
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Even still, I think that could be a good way to see if someone has an SO.
Exactly. Pretty much the point of my story, really. Had I indicated that their mom wasn't in the picture she may have followed up with some polite small talk and concluded with a casual invite of some kind to get together. (Or maybe not, you can't really prove a counter-factual.) But it is reasonable to believe that would have been a plausible progression had I been available.
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Old 03-23-2015, 06:51 PM
 
Location: Fredericksburg, VA
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Oh, that reminds me, OP.....walk/play with your dog, ideally a big one. Man bait. I know it's not advice on how to approach a guy, but holy crap, it helps in the "meeting men" department. I can't speak for all men, but I will come talk to you 100% of the time that you're walking a medium or larger dog, as long as you're not on your phone or with another guy.

Don't have a dog? Don't get one just to meet men. But this post is just one of a zillion examples of how much it works.
My wife and I are about to get a Leonberger. You're right: big dogs are man bait. My wife pestered me about getting a dog for a long time, then showed me a picture of a 180 pound leo and I was SOLD! Our breeder expects the litter any day now. We'll have our pup by May!
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:56 PM
 
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Oh, that reminds me, OP.....walk/play with your dog, ideally a big one. Man bait. I know it's not advice on how to approach a guy, but holy crap, it helps in the "meeting men" department. I can't speak for all men, but I will come talk to you 100% of the time that you're walking a medium or larger dog, as long as you're not on your phone or with another guy.

Don't have a dog? Don't get one just to meet men. But this post is just one of a zillion examples of how much it works.
I feel like having a dog would work more in a guy's favor than a girl's favor. However, dogs really are such a great ice-breaker for either gender.

Dogs: man's best friend and also man's best wingman.
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Old 03-23-2015, 11:58 PM
 
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Pretty well works for meeting guys.
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Old 03-24-2015, 05:25 AM
 
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I've had several approaches over the past few years (VERY spaced out). Sometimes women will have a bit of time to be around you (subway train, bus) and will say 'hi' or ask directions after you've both gotten off the train/subway. Other times I'm caught totally off-guard by it, depending on the surroundings. It's always flattering when you get a direct approach from a woman. Happens rarely, but it happens, some women, apparently, have outgrown the eyelash-batting game.
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Old 03-24-2015, 08:06 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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I just stare them down and hope they get the clue.
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