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Old 03-26-2015, 01:27 AM
 
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It's been 4 years since I broke up with my ex that lasted 3 years. When I usually broke up with someone I forget about them instantly, then move on. But this ex hasn't been forgotten, for one a friend of mine, remains friends with this ex, so she tells me everything that's going on even when I told her not too. And I have forgotten about him sometimes I go on and never think or talk about him but then part of me goes back to doing that or even looking him up online.

Since that break up, I have dated and tried getting into a new Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationship, but nothing has happened since my ex and I. So what should I do to forget about him for good? I just don't know what to do, I do forget but yet things happen that causes things to come back in all over again.

I don't know.
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Old 03-26-2015, 03:55 AM
 
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relationship counseling and break from dating


also separate yourself from that so called friend. no legitimate friend would continue bringing up a situation that you have told her not to.
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Old 03-26-2015, 05:42 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Yep, lose the friend because she's not really your friend.

As to why you haven't found a new steady relationship is anybody's guess. It seems like you you need to find a guy who is on the same page as you are about premarital sex.

You also need to grow up and learn some critical thinking skills.
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Old 03-26-2015, 05:44 AM
 
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did he dump you or did you break up with him?

*if* the latter then you have no reason to still be thinking about the person, you chose to leave

either way... its been 4 yrs, you have no choice but to move on and stop dwelling in the past

the best way to get over someone is to get someone else
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Old 03-26-2015, 05:49 AM
 
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You just posted a couple of days ago that your dating was going great. Did you forget that?
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Old 03-26-2015, 06:17 AM
 
Location: NY
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What can you do? Accept that you two are broken up and that your going to move on. Then stop dwelling on something years in the past. If you cannot do that, seek counseling for help.

Oh, and that "friend" needs a firm talking to. Your so called friend is just causing drama, which certainly is keeping old wounds open and hindering your ability to move on. It is time to lay it out for this friend and tell them to cut it out, or go away.
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Old 03-26-2015, 06:31 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IL
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I completely understand how the OP feels. I left my alcoholic husband going on two years ago. He instantly met and married someone else. I have struggled the entire time, trying to get over him. Yes, I left him. However, to Ace_TX -- just because you are the one to end a relationship doesn't mean that "you have no reason to still be thinking about the person." I loved my ex with everything I had, but he loved his alcohol more than he did me. He refused to give it up and when he started becoming violent, I had no choice but to leave. I still miss him and honestly, still love him. I'm still not sure how to move on or how to love someone else. No, I would never go back to that situation. But you can't just "will" the feelings away when you truly loved someone. In the past two years, I have been out with several guys and dated two seriously. But it always breaks down because my heart still belongs to my ex.
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Old 03-26-2015, 09:17 AM
 
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I completely understand how the OP feels. I left my alcoholic husband going on two years ago. He instantly met and married someone else. I have struggled the entire time, trying to get over him. Yes, I left him. However, to Ace_TX -- just because you are the one to end a relationship doesn't mean that "you have no reason to still be thinking about the person." I loved my ex with everything I had, but he loved his alcohol more than he did me. He refused to give it up and when he started becoming violent, I had no choice but to leave. I still miss him and honestly, still love him. I'm still not sure how to move on or how to love someone else. No, I would never go back to that situation. But you can't just "will" the feelings away when you truly loved someone. In the past two years, I have been out with several guys and dated two seriously. But it always breaks down because my heart still belongs to my ex.
So how do you let go?
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Old 03-26-2015, 09:36 AM
 
Location: Fuquay Varina
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So how do you let go?

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Tonight's date was just as great if not better than last night's date. We both had a great time together.

You keep going on dates like the one you posted the other day.

I'm wondering though how great your dates were when you seem to be fixated on the ex.
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Old 03-26-2015, 09:38 AM
 
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Ah.... you need to read your other thread? Aren't you happy in a recently "official" BF/GF relationship?
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