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Old 03-29-2015, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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then by all means....cuddle.

*salutes*
Salutes back
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Old 03-29-2015, 03:31 PM
 
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Let the man do what he wants. I prefer spending time and cuddling with a woman. But sadly, not every man gets that chance.
Judging from your posts and threads you do not have a sterling record with women either. So who are you to judge others?
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Old 03-29-2015, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Judging from your posts and threads you do not have a sterling record with women either. So who are you to judge others?
I have a girlfriend now. So.....
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Old 03-29-2015, 06:43 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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So this has been an issue for me my whole life. Now I'm divorced in my 40's and its really hard because the women I want think I'm old (online until they meet me). So I need to approach women in public if I have any hope of having a family. Here's what I'm STRONGLY considering. I've started listening to a Podcast called "The Art of Charm". The guy who does these podcasts has great guests and its been an awesome learning experience. He runs a week long bootcamp in L.A. for men to overcome their fear of approaching people and be more charismatic personally and professionally. Its not just to meet women, but also in business. Its quite an investment, but at this point, short of finding a Russian bride, I'm tempted. I've been considering doing his bootcamp this summer. I think its aimed at shy introverts like myself, so why not. I hate being an introvert and I hate not being confident enough with no attachment to outcome (rejection) to approach women in a Whole Foods, the gym, or wherever. It has to stop! I think this could be the answer for me, unless my dream woman falls in my lap tomorrow.
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Old 03-29-2015, 08:16 PM
 
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I have a girlfriend now. So.....
So now you are an expert?
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Old 03-29-2015, 08:19 PM
 
Location: Imperial Beach
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I see so many women that I want to approach but I can't bring myself to do it. I want so badly to be able to be bold and brave but I'm ugly as hell and I know they won't accept me.

I'm terrified.

But I see so many guys do it.

How do you know she won't reject you and break you down right there?

How do you know she'll accept you?

And most importantly, how do you know if you're even good enough to be talking to her in the first place?

Please help.
It's all practice If she turns you down who cares try it with another chick yo!
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Old 03-29-2015, 08:44 PM
 
Location: Jupiter
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So now you are an expert?
Nope never said I was one.
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Old 03-29-2015, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn, NY
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If you already know you're ugly one stranger's opinion shouldn't matter.
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Old 03-30-2015, 08:37 AM
 
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If you already know you're ugly one stranger's opinion shouldn't matter.
Well that's the thing, I still have this massive fear struck into me whenever I see a girl I like.

I always have the mentality before I leave the house that "This time, I'm FINALLY going to do it and approach a girl", but by the time I get out, that's gone.

It's replaced with a TON of anxiety and I can't even look at the girl, let alone talk to them.
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Old 03-30-2015, 09:38 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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Well that's the thing, I still have this massive fear struck into me whenever I see a girl I like.

I always have the mentality before I leave the house that "This time, I'm FINALLY going to do it and approach a girl", but by the time I get out, that's gone.

It's replaced with a TON of anxiety and I can't even look at the girl, let alone talk to them.
Don't psych yourself out too much. If you're talking about randomly approaching a woman, then you're probably not going to get a lot of dates that way. You should just start out with the goal of saying "hi" or striking up a conversation with people (men, women, puppies, etc.) when the opportunity arises. You'll find out that it's not a life or death situation to hang your entire sense of self-worth on. No one's going to point and laugh, no one's going to film you and put it on YouTube. It's fine.
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