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Old 03-28-2015, 04:28 PM
 
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You can't rely on observational skills only. If I did that, I would have lost a really great friendship that I have now.. but whatever. Observation is inconclusive without other components.
I disagree. Most of the time its conclusive and obvious.
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Old 03-28-2015, 04:34 PM
 
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Observational skills as I mentioned in another post.
Too vague an answer. What are you observing, that's convincing you women wouldn't be interested, if given the chance?
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Old 03-28-2015, 04:39 PM
 
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You don't have to be a mind reader. You just need good observational skills.
Dude, all it takes is one, the right one. You don't need all of 'em to show interest in you. That doesn't happen to anyone, hardly. You need to place yourself in a target-rich environment with some regularity, to give the fish a chance to bite. Be approachable. Sooner or later, some woman with the right combo of taste, interests, and psychology will take an interest in you. Just don't freak, and bail for the nearest exit when it happens, lol.
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Old 03-28-2015, 04:57 PM
 
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Dude, all it takes is one, the right one. You don't need all of 'em to show interest in you. That doesn't happen to anyone, hardly. You need to place yourself in a target-rich environment with some regularity, to give the fish a chance to bite. Be approachable. Sooner or later, some woman with the right combo of taste, interests, and psychology will take an interest in you. Just don't freak, and bail for the nearest exit when it happens, lol.
I never said anything about wanting all of them to show interest but when none do its obvious.
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:00 PM
 
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I never said anything about wanting all of them to show interest but when none do its obvious.
Do you put yourself out there? You have to put yourself in the middle of where the women are at, on a regular basis. Just going about your ho-hum day and expecting magic to happen isn't the way to go about it.
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:04 PM
 
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I never said anything about wanting all of them to show interest but when none do its obvious.
I know a LOT of women who never would have gotten anywhere relationship-wise if they thought this way. Women who never got any interest from anyone in HS or college, and some--after college as well. So they decided they needed to take matters into their own hands. Waiting around for interest to come their way got them nowhere. But they didn't let it phase their self-esteem, nor did they give up. They didn't take the complete lack of interest, or even obvious avoidance of them, in some instances, as a sign that no men on Earth would ever want them. They went for what they wanted, and made things happen. Those who didn't are still alone decades later. Everyone makes choices. You've made a choice to not even try, so you've forfeited your right to complain legitimately. Because this is what you've chosen.
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:10 PM
 
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I see so many women that I want to approach but I can't bring myself to do it. I want so badly to be able to be bold and brave but I'm ugly as hell and I know they won't accept me.

I'm terrified.

But I see so many guys do it.

How do you know she won't reject you and break you down right there?

How do you know she'll accept you?

And most importantly, how do you know if you're even good enough to be talking to her in the first place?

Please help.
We don't...

When I approach, (If I ever get the chance to, that is) I feel that I am ready for the worst case scenario.
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:52 PM
 
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I disagree. Most of the time its conclusive and obvious.
What do they do? Hiss and back away from you like a vampire confronted with garlic?
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:54 PM
 
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I know a LOT of women who never would have gotten anywhere relationship-wise if they thought this way. Women who never got any interest from anyone in HS or college, and some--after college as well. So they decided they needed to take matters into their own hands. Waiting around for interest to come their way got them nowhere. But they didn't let it phase their self-esteem, nor did they give up. They didn't take the complete lack of interest, or even obvious avoidance of them, in some instances, as a sign that no men on Earth would ever want them. They went for what they wanted, and made things happen. Those who didn't are still alone decades later. Everyone makes choices. You've made a choice to not even try, so you've forfeited your right to complain legitimately. Because this is what you've chosen.
I wasn't complaining.
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Old 03-28-2015, 05:59 PM
 
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What do they do? Hiss and back away from you like a vampire confronted with garlic?
No. Disinterest is obvious though.
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