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Old 03-29-2015, 12:20 PM
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I doubt you speak that either.
Why?
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Old 03-29-2015, 12:22 PM
 
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I think it show's his upbringing...He has likely always done this..since He was likely brought up to let his parents know..when he arrived, who he was with , and where he is....I was brought up like that..and of course as a younger' I thought..Don't they trust me..But as I got older..I realized why it's so important.

Anyway, considerate behaviour seem's that some question if there's a hidden agenda?? Yikes!!

As to if by someone to call ( in the old days) I did...and If I ask say, my son or friend to call..THEN if no call in certain period of time...You bet I followed up and call them!!! Usual excuse was..I forgot..got side tracked.
BUT They call or I call..End of message...Home Safe and Sound
Well, even in the days when cell phones wasn't a possibility or they weren't mandatory for each person to have, I'm pretty sure I'd have either just picked them up and took them home so she would get home safe, or I would just tail them home to be considerate.
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Old 03-29-2015, 12:36 PM
 
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In each situation I've asked the woman to send me a text or a phone call when they got home, they've always sent out some kind of reply back. If she didn't send me some kind of message I would send a text out about a half hour or so, unless I knew it was a longer drive.

I asked because sometimes bad things happen on the road, like a flat tire, there car just breaks down for whatever reason, and sometimes there closest friends aren't available and there parents aren't around, so they know that I'm willing to come find them and help them get home and call a tow truck.

It's not being selfish in the least. If you think that, I'm sorry you think that way.
Aww, Froggie, you're such a gent!
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Old 03-29-2015, 12:44 PM
 
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Aww, Froggie, you're such a gent!
I don't know about that. I walk around humming Crotch Rock that Girl all the time. I'm not a real gentleman.
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Old 03-29-2015, 10:45 PM
 
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In each situation I've asked the woman to send me a text or a phone call when they got home, they've always sent out some kind of reply back. If she didn't send me some kind of message I would send a text out about a half hour or so, unless I knew it was a longer drive.

I asked because sometimes bad things happen on the road, like a flat tire, there car just breaks down for whatever reason, and sometimes there closest friends aren't available and there parents aren't around, so they know that I'm willing to come find them and help them get home and call a tow truck.

It's not being selfish in the least. If you think that, I'm sorry you think that way.
You can let them know they can text/call you if needed without obligating them to call/text you to tell you they are fine.
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Old 03-29-2015, 10:48 PM
 
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You bet I followed up and call them!!! Usual excuse was..I forgot..got side tracked.
BUT They call or I call..End of message...Home Safe and Sound
They are either home safe.. or they're not. Your text or their text doesn't change that. If they had a problem and needed your help they would have contacted you.
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Old 03-30-2015, 12:02 AM
 
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I think it's actually a selfish thing to do. It's entirely for the benefit of the one asking to make them feel better. It doesn't "make sure" of anything. And it puts a requirement on the person asked.

I've asked this a few times though and had it asked of me by girls but it invariably creates more problems than it solves. One person gets home and gets busy and forgets then the other person is needlessly worrying (solves nothing) or has forgotten as well (negates the point of having asked).

So, for those of you that ask, do you follow up if you don't get that text? How long do you wait? If your date has a 10 minute drive home are you pinging them in 15 or 45? If you get no reply to that how do you decide if they are dead in a ditch or sound asleep?

The real reason for asking is to create a personal connection, something kinda intimate they shared with you. They aren't texting their best friend or their mom, but you. They go about their business every day of their life going to work, shopping, seeing friends, etc. just fine without someone "making sure" they are safe.
i agree with you sort of. i don't think it is selfish though. whenever a date has said that to me, i will text when i get home and it seems like a little extra connection to end the evening. even if it doesn't really work out and maybe there isn't even a second date (assuming we are talking about a first date), i think it is sometimes just a polite request "text me when you get home" and sometimes it is because it is more personal. like you said, they are texting with you, not their mom or sister. hard to explain. if i like the guy, i am happy to text him that i got home. there might be a few more words back and forth and it is good! but if i am not really attracted to him, i will still let him know, but it is more just because he asked and i said i would.

i was also thinking and was going to say before i read your post...i go about my day every day without texting anyone that i made it to the store ok or i made it home after going out to dinner and a movie with a friend.

so, it's a friendly and kind thing to ask, but at the same time it is kind of silly, and also is a way to have another sort of connection with someone.
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Old 03-30-2015, 02:27 AM
 
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I did this and was viewed as controlling by women on here.. some other guy does it he's considerate. Anyways, we usually do it because we feel responsible that you make it home safe from our 'date'. Its nothing big.
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Old 03-30-2015, 10:15 AM
 
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OP,

I am married, and my husband does this everyday to make sure I made it to work. I'm leaving in the dark, though. And I work downtown where there are sketchy people hanging about.

He did this throughout our dating as well.
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Old 03-30-2015, 10:33 AM
 
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so, it's a friendly and kind thing to ask, but at the same time it is kind of silly, and also is a way to have another sort of connection with someone.
I never said it was a terrible thing to do just that it has potential to create needless worry when the person being asked forgets. The guy asking a new date doesn't know if she is someone like you who will remember to do it and appreciates it or someone else who takes it less seriously and doesn't remember it two seconds later but might be annoyed to get woken up an hour later if he "follows up".

I see it as more practical for long-term and/or married couples, where you know each other's tendencies and preferences. The one being asked may know that it is really important to the one asking and will do it whether they think it is silly or not. It's going to be seen as concerned caring not "creepy".
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