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Old 03-28-2015, 07:03 PM
 
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half of me thinks, there is no rush telling him, because he doesn't have a say in whether you keep it or not..


if he wants a kid,,,,you still have the option of not having one,,


I had a girl once tell me she had a miscarriage,,, and I was the dad,,,,
I didn't know what to think,,i thought at first she should have told me she was pregnant,,,but then again,,,we were young,,
overall,,, I supported her on this,,,,,,she went thru a tough time
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Old 03-28-2015, 07:05 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Look, whatever you decide, PLEASE make sure it is a decision you can live with for at least the next 18 years, until your child will be an adult. Young women (and I am thinking you are young based on your posts) who think that babies are so cute until faced with the reality of sleepless nights, no "me" time, and toddler tantrums, and then refuse to do the right thing for their children end up REALLY hurting the child.

And, yes, I can just hear you, "That's NOT going to happen to me! I will love and care for this child no matter what!" The problem is that literally hundreds of thousands of women have said that, and their children have ended up in foster care or being adopted. (And, yes, I also know that there are hundreds of thousands of young women who have become EXCELLENT mothers.)

So, again, it IS your decision, but please think of the child FIRST before you are blinded by what YOU want.
I agree with your entire post. And I understand your point about being responsible for the child until they're 18. But the reality is that when you have kids, you (should) have a relationship for life.

Again, I agree with your post.
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Old 03-28-2015, 07:06 PM
 
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If you both knowingly didn't use any form of birth control, he can't be really shocked that it happened. Either way that child in your belly right now should come first before anything else and all your decisions from now on should be made in the child's best interest. I think you know you should've already told him you're just somehow looking for confirmation here that it's ok that you've been keeping this from him for whatever reason, and frankly that's just selfish!
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Old 03-28-2015, 07:14 PM
 
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Waiting till the 9th month and surprising him doesn't seem like a workable move....
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Old 03-28-2015, 07:40 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Didn't you already tell him that you thought you might be pregnant?
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Old 03-28-2015, 07:48 PM
 
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Hmmm...not on bc all this time as FWB and somehow finally gets pregnant when they become a couple. Yeah, accident, rrriiiiiiiiiiggggghhhhtttt.
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Old 03-28-2015, 08:22 PM
 
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I'm 6 weeks pregnant, and I'm not sure when to tell him.
My core mantra is that relationships are based on many things but above all - they are based on communication.

So NOW would be my answer.
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Old 03-28-2015, 08:40 PM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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I remember this very thing happening to me 20 years ago, but I have a hard time believing that there are two women in the world this evil, so I'm flagging this as a troll thread.
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Old 03-28-2015, 09:29 PM
 
Location: Springfield
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On your way to the hospital.
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Old 03-28-2015, 09:40 PM
 
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From your other thread, it sounds like you were FWB, not boyfriend girlfriend. I can see why you'd be afraid to tell him.

Two days ago you are posting threads about finding a new place to move, Florida, whatever. That doesnt sound like someone with a boyfriend.
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