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I went for a first meet one time with a guy I found to be sort of immature and shallow. At the end, he told me he was not going to be able to see me again because he was going out of the country for a while. It was so ridiculously transparent, so fake, I called him on it. He blathered a bit, unable to recover, then I just politely excused myself.
He hadn't needed to say anything at all.....it wasn't like i was asking to see him again. really unnecessary. and it came out so phony..........
So I'm going through some stuff in my relationship life and went and reread this thread. There is soooooo much truth in this statement. I wish people would be more up front about how they feel! But i'm guilty too, when I'm not interested, I usually give a "it's not you, it's me" speech, instead of telling the truth. But sometimes people don't want to hear the truth. So what to do?
But that is the truth. YOU are just not into him.
Besides, you are attempting to save face for him.
So my worst dumping? Mmmm .... let's see Oh yes, having the police called on me and being issued a trespass order. That after she unprovoked, called my son a thief, a drug addict and told him he should go and join his late brother, who had recently taken his life.
Did I mention that she shouted all this out in the street? She lied to the police, accusing me of assault and having 12 guns under the bed. Oh yeah, she called them on the pretext that I was threatening her with guns or something. None of it was was true though and the police realized this once they spoke to me. They arrived armed and prepared for a seige, taking cover behind the garden wall! And all I did was demand she handed me back my phone - all related to that attack on my son!
Mind you, I needed to leave anyway, after what she did to my son.
So since I started this thing, I will go first. Okay, so I know this won't be as bad as others, but one night at the bar/club I tried to hit it off with these two women who were dancing by themselves. I came over to introduce myself, and immediately was given a cold, blank stare. After about a minute they started ignoring me, and one of the girls gave her friend a big thumbs down. They then told me they wanted another guy to chill with. I'll be honest with you, the way that all transpired kind of hurt.
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They should have just said "not interested". I think verbal communication is more honest and works better.
A woman I had been dating for about a year who made me a part of her family, (she had two little girls, and one older one), made sure I bonded with her kids, and extended family etc dumped me via text by saying that she had slept with someone else. I knew something was up when she would tell me he would come over, and drink the expensive Bourbon I had bought and kept at her place. It was weird because the guy was a friend of hers from high school, and also very obese. I had met him previously while we were in a restaurant, and we ran into him. She also had a weird relationship with her older, teenage daughter.
I was lucky to get out of that one, and thank God she did what she did, and I didn't get in a commitment with her. Years later, I was in a relationship with a woman for a few months, and I just wasn't feeling it with her. In person, I explained my feelings, and asked her to just be friends, as we usually did have a good time together. That didn't go too well.
The worst way was to be ghosted. I thought he had more balls than that.
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Oh yes, having the police called on me and being issued a trespass order. That after she unprovoked, called my son a thief, a drug addict and told him he should go and join his late brother, who had recently taken his life. 
Oh yeah, she called them on the pretext that I was threatening her with guns or something. None of it was was true though and the police realized this once they spoke to me. They arrived armed and prepared for a seige, taking cover behind the garden wall! And all I did was demand she handed me back my phone - all related to that attack on my son! 
