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What is up with all these couples than have barely known each other a minute spouting off "I love you" all over Facebook and everywhere else? Doesn't that take time? Like lots of time to fall in love with someone?
I am talking like they have been a couple for 2 months. The ex of the guy I hang out with, started dating this guy long distance 2-3 months ago and they spew "I love you" everywhere. My ex was engaged two weeks after meeting his most recent significant other.
Is this even normal? Is this fast moving relationship style doomed for failure by not letting things develop naturally?
Perhaps they feel as if things ARE "developing naturally" at that pace. They've put their guard down and thrown caution to the wind. When you have fallen in love you want to shout it from the rooftops! Or facebook...same thing. LOL.
Or maybe they are young and not yet cynical to know how fleeting it can be. I have a niece on facebook who announces to everyone that she's in a relationship with the best boyfriend in the world. It's a different guy every few weeks! But she is 15 so you just have to laugh.
Her heart will harden soon enough without my help.
Perhaps they feel as if things ARE "developing naturally" at that pace. They've put their guard down and thrown caution to the wind. When you have fallen in love you want to shout it from the rooftops! Or facebook...same thing. LOL.
Or maybe they are young and not yet cynical to know how fleeting it can be. I have a niece on facebook who announces to everyone that she's in a relationship with the best boyfriend in the world. It's a different guy every few weeks! But she is 15 so you just have to laugh.
Her heart will harden soon enough without my help.
I get 15 year olds acting that way. The couples I am referring to are mid to late 30's.
I have known my significant other most of my life and while I do love him, that is from watching him grow up and knowing him forever. That did not cultivate in 2 months.
I get 15 year olds acting that way. The couples I am referring to are mid to late 30's.
I have known my significant other most of my life and while I do love him, that is from watching him grow up and knowing him forever. That did not cultivate in 2 months.
Well, this is you, that's them. Is it me? Nope. Is it someone else? Yep.
I get 15 year olds acting that way. The couples I am referring to are mid to late 30's.
I have known my significant other most of my life and while I do love him, that is from watching him grow up and knowing him forever. That did not cultivate in 2 months.
Right. I know what you're saying. But you don't have to know someone for years to love them. It's easy to confuse infatuation with love. I've always struggled with that myself. But infatuation can lay the foundation for genuine mature love, so why knock it?
But the second you guys wanted a "relationship" he was essentially sleeping over at your place pretty quick, and around your kids. Slow moving relationships?
You have known him a while, but you have not been "dating" him that long, and said you don't really know where the relationship stands--if you're FWB or Official, and he just broke up with a previous SO not too long ago. Or has that changed and it's official now?
So you 2 moved fast in your "relationship" as well, the second you both decided to try one.
So as you can see, relationships move at different paces. it depends on the people, and what works for one couple may seem weird or odd to another. So, I wouldn't say it's doomed. It has as much chance as any other relationship.
Some couples get married after a few months, and are still together 20 years later. 1 couple dated for 5 years before marriage happened. Then some date a good bit, a wedding is planned, but the end up splitting. My brother and his ex moved steadily. They dated a good while, he eventually moved into her place where he stayed for some years. They planned a wedding, and ended up breaking up because he got tired of her and was talking to another girl.
It's like the old saying that you shouldn't have sex on a 1st date because guys will lose interest. That is very much possible. But if it's a good man, he'd still give you a shot and hang out more. Some women had sex on 1st dates, and said date ended up being their husband. lol
Last edited by HappyRain; 03-31-2015 at 05:04 AM..
It could be a spur of the moment thing. They don't always mean it.
My boyfriend said that he loves with me a few days, even though we've "known" each other for like a month.
In actuality, I knew the guy ever since we were kids. We were childhood friends (distant friends rather). It wasn't until a month ago where we thought we have feelings for each other. And now he's like "I love you". I can't say it as of yet, but I do have strong feelings for him...
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