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Did his couch potato side not come out until after you were married?.........
Some men (not all men) lie about who they are and what they want out of life when they are trying to impress a woman. After the marriage, they go back to their real self.
It's a lot easier to misrepresent yourself when you see a person for a couple of nights a week than it is to fake it when you live full time in the same house.
Personally, I have never met a man yet who cheerfully confessed immediately to being a lazy worthless slug.
Maybe besides not having any ambition.. He's a total DB and he's being dumped for that reason. It happens!
I am a total go getter. I want to do and see it all! If he dosen't have my ( or similar) drive , energy and enthusiasm we probably won't last long.
Last edited by Sydney123; 04-09-2015 at 01:31 AM..
Some men (not all men) lie about who they are and what they want out of life when they are trying to impress a woman. After the marriage, they go back to their real self.
It's a lot easier to misrepresent yourself when you see a person for a couple of nights a week than it is to fake it when you live full time in the same house.
Personally, I have never met a man yet who cheerfully confessed immediately to being a lazy worthless slug.
lol! How does something like that unfold? If, after the honeymoon, you find yourself married to a different person, different personality, than the person you knew during dating and the engagement, that would be a huge red flag. You could get the marriage annulled, or get a quickie divorce. I'd be freaking out if I found myself married to someone who effectively was a stranger once life settled into a routine after the wedding.
7 years ago, I would of agreed with the OP, but for a time I've noticed the other way around. I've seen scruffy, downtrodden, dirty truckeresque unshaved guys with women who look like they work in professional settings... unless it's the way they always dress.
Yesterday at my bank, a couple around my age was applying for a loan with their kids. The man looked like he rolled around in dirt as his shirt jeans, and hat were covered in dirt and the shirt had small noticeable holes and a cigarette in his ear. The wife looked like she worked in an office.
Earlier this week, some guy pulled up in my neighbors driveway to pick her up hoking the horn and yelling "hurry but b****". My neighbor comes out looking like she's going to a job interview. It's a pretty nice home too.
Last month, at the store same type of couple bickering over why he can't find a job but she still buys him booze.
All three guys are tall and lanky, maybe it's an image thing.
... I've seen scruffy, downtrodden, dirty truckeresque unshaved guys with women who look like they work in professional settings... unless it's the way they always dress.
... The man looked like he rolled around in dirt as his shirt jeans, and hat were covered in dirt and the shirt had small noticeable holes and a cigarette in his ear. The wife looked like she worked in an office.
Earlier this week, some guy pulled up in my neighbors driveway to pick her up hoking the horn and yelling "hurry but b****". My neighbor comes out looking like she's going to a job interview. It's a pretty nice home too....
I've observed similar cases. Professional-type husband and wife. Divorce. Wife remarries. Husband #2 is a laborer or outright loafer. Alternatively, husband is a construction-worker or similar, wife is an attorney. Or, husband is retired from the military (enlisted) and no longer gainfully employed, while the wife is in a lucrative white-collar field. Or, husband does odd handy-man jobs, while the wife is a superstar real-estate agent.
This happens, I think, is predominantly working-class locales, where the supply of male professionals is sparse. It's also a counterexample to the oft-repeated trope of "assortative mating".
Some men (not all men) lie about who they are and what they want out of life when they are trying to impress a woman. After the marriage, they go back to their real self.
It's a lot easier to misrepresent yourself when you see a person for a couple of nights a week than it is to fake it when you live full time in the same house.
Personally, I have never met a man yet who cheerfully confessed immediately to being a lazy worthless slug.
LOL! Great post!
This basically sums up PUA. Lying about yourself to appear more attractive to women.
I've known guys who pretend to be ambitious but they all have no aspirations to move up management or own a business.
Of course not all men do this but it does happen a lot in the dating phase.
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