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Hi everyone this is my first post here. I am having some problems with my parents. I met a lovely Colombian girl from Bogota 1 year ago while on vacation there. I am 26 white male and she is 22 and she is learning English even though I am fluent in Spanish so communication is not a problem for me. My parents think that it is not a good idea to marry a person from out of the country because they think she is using me. I have visited her 4 times in Colombia over the last year and she came to the states 1 time to visit me. I have always preferred Hispanic women over all other women so she is perfect for me but it is tough when my own parents don't support my choice. I am going to marry her within the year and bring her here once I get the fiance visa straightened out whether my parents approve or not. Do you guys have any suggestions to help my parents understand that they should not worry about her using me. I really don't know what to do about it?
You've only met with her 4 or 5 times and you're talking about marriage, you're family is correct to voice concern, their concern should be how fast things are going not so much her using you for a meal ticket to the USA... course, that could be a reason too, places like Columbia people are desperately poor, there isn't much of a middle class in a lot of south American countries, people either have money or are broke as hell and poor....... Slow your roll is the correct way of dealing with this.
Hi everyone this is my first post here. I am having some problems with my parents. I met a lovely Colombian girl from Bogota 1 year ago while on vacation there. I am 26 white male and she is 22 and she is learning English even though I am fluent in Spanish so communication is not a problem for me. My parents think that it is not a good idea to marry a person from out of the country because they think she is using me. I have visited her 4 times in Colombia over the last year and she came to the states 1 time to visit me. I have always preferred Hispanic women over all other women so she is perfect for me but it is tough when my own parents don't support my choice. I am going to marry her within the year and bring her here once I get the fiance visa straightened out whether my parents approve or not. Do you guys have any suggestions to help my parents understand that they should not worry about her using me. I really don't know what to do about it?
Your parents may be right.
With that said, your parents are worried about it which suggests to me that they care about you, and you're just going to have to deal with it. On the other hand, you've stated that you're marrying the woman with or without their approval and since it will be your loss if they are right or your win if you are right, they're just going to have to deal with it.
You've only met with her 4 or 5 times and you're talking about marriage, you're family is correct to voice concern, their concern should be how fast things are going not so much her using you for a meal ticket to the USA... course, that could be a reason too, places like Columbia people are desperately poor, there isn't much of a middle class in a lot of south American countries, people either have money or are broke as hell and poor....... Slow your roll is the correct way of dealing with this.
Hi everyone this is my first post here. I am having some problems with my parents. I met a lovely Colombian girl from Bogota 1 year ago while on vacation there. I am 26 white male and she is 22 and she is learning English even though I am fluent in Spanish so communication is not a problem for me. My parents think that it is not a good idea to marry a person from out of the country because they think she is using me. I have visited her 4 times in Colombia over the last year and she came to the states 1 time to visit me. I have always preferred Hispanic women over all other women so she is perfect for me but it is tough when my own parents don't support my choice. I am going to marry her within the year and bring her here once I get the fiance visa straightened out whether my parents approve or not. Do you guys have any suggestions to help my parents understand that they should not worry about her using me. I really don't know what to do about it?
How was she able to come here to visit you? Is she from a high-end family, or does she have a high-level career? They don't give visas to just anyone.
With that said, your parents are worried about it which suggests to me that they care about you, and you're just going to have to deal with it. On the other hand, you've stated that you're marrying the woman with or without their approval and since it will be your loss if they are right or your win if you are right, they're just going to have to deal with it.
[how long was your vacation?]
I was there for the whole month of February 2014 when I first met her. I visited her 4 times since for an average of 2 weeks each of those trips. We communicate all the time over Skype and whatsapp so we are always in contact. She is not poor as some have suggested because her family is middle class in Colombia. She is finishing her studies to be a vet technician and like I said she is learning English. Sometimes you have to follow your heart and that is what I am going to do. I get the whole parents are concerned bit but I wish they had more trust instead of being negative.
I am going to marry her within the year and bring her here once I get the fiance visa straightened out whether my parents approve or not. Do you guys have any suggestions to help my parents understand that they should not worry about her using me. I really don't know what to do about it?
Well, if his post is real, suggest that your parents look up the biography of Jeb Bush. Very similar story that ended well for him... Of course there are no guarantees...
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