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Scared to approach? Why??? Are they something special women suppose to fear?
? They have the same fears and insecurities.
Wonder why men and women can't just act ... NORMAL.
This for the most part. However, I am shy to a fault almost. So, even if I find a man attractive, i'd be too scared to approach lol I would try to orbit, or approach under pretense of something else. Not to take pride in that, but it's just true lol
This seems to be something most, if not all, women go through and could be one of the many reasons why women do not take initiative and pursue men.
This for the most part. However, I am shy to a fault almost. So, even if I find a man attractive, i'd be too scared to approach lol I would try to orbit, or approach under pretense of something else. Not to take pride in that, but it's just true lol
Orbiting= Stealth approach, it doesn't always have to be obvious.
Scared to approach? Why??? Are they something special women suppose to fear?
? They have the same fears and insecurities.
Wonder why men and women can't just act ... NORMAL.
So a small part of me always feels like I "created" attraction, and, my brain compares it to being a house, versus a mountain. The house was built, and is nice, but can be destroyed much more easily than a mountain, which is a natural wonder.
This is how I feel most of my relationships / encounters are, "creations" of mine, which could be destroyed or recreated...
I feel like this house and mountain talk is just the basis for confidence issues. Even though I don't walk around thinking I'm Brad Pitt or George Clooney, I don't need to. I've never had problems getting dates and yes, I've gotten them all from initiating the conversations myself. Basically, I'm too busy being myself to think about mountains and how they live their lives.
Well, there are times when I get approached. For me, it is probably more about the crowd you run with. If you are a man that is into art for example, you are probably not going to have as much luck with ladies that are not into art as those who share the same interests.
I get approached a bit, but that is due to me being at a certain place at a certain time, surrounded by certain people.
I believe OKCupid's blog did a "study" on this phenomenon. Most women in the survey claimed that the majority of men were average to below average looking, but still pursued them more often than guys that they thought were really good looking.
So there you have it. I think that, statistically speaking, it could be said that women have high standards when it comes to men's appearances. However, they seem to be more accepting of their average-ness and pursue them nonetheless.
That said, I always thought I was decent looking overall, but with OLD and IRL, it's seldom that a woman actually pursues me from the start.
I generally don't pursue men. I either allow them to pursue me or not. I just use Jedi mind tricks to get the man I desire.
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