Would you prefer a guy follow "the rules" or his heart? (dating, how to)
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If a guy didn't have the natural dating skills of the people who are highly active in the dating world, would it be better for him to try to study up on the rules of dating etiquette? Or should he just follow what makes sense in his heart, even knowing that it could be a mistake to the wrong lady?
You can't really "learn" about dating by reading up stuff on the internet or in books. I mean you can, but it's not the same. Researching it like a school subject will make you treat it like a school subject, IMHO.
I recommend going out and experiencing it for yourself. People make mistakes all the time, it's a part of life. You won't learn anything if you don't screw up sometimes.
There are no "rules" when it comes to life in general let alone dating, being married or having children.
You learn with experience and everyone has a different experience and a different learning curve.
Dating isn't like learning how to use a sewing machine on youtube.
Pay attention to her likes and dislikes.Her actions.
The problem is, you don't know if she is playing some kind of game. For example, does her lack of response indicate that she is turned off? Or does it mean that she finds the guy interesting and is now suddenly playing hard to get?
Actually, either possibility would be bad if she acted that way. Now that I think about it.
The problem is, you don't know if she is playing some kind of game. For example, does her lack of response indicate that she is turned off? Or does it mean that she finds the guy interesting and is now suddenly playing hard to get?
Actually, either possibility would be bad if she acted that way. Now that I think about it.
If they're playing games, they're the one with the problem. Do you want a girl who "plays hard to get" and wants you to chase after her? Otherwise, if she starts getting distant or cold on you, mark it as lack of interest, and move on. If she really did like you, she can kick herself for screwing it up. Don't "chase" people. Doesn't look good on men or women if you're making all this effort and doing all this stuff, and the other person just barely seems interested, or doesn't seem to reciprocate.
Hopefully, you want to date women, not little girls in women bodies. So if a woman is interested in you, she will show it. Not "play hard to get." That's how you chase people away.
The problem is, you don't know if she is playing some kind of game. For example, does her lack of response indicate that she is turned off? Or does it mean that she finds the guy interesting and is now suddenly playing hard to get?
Actually, either possibility would be bad if she acted that way. Now that I think about it.
If a guy didn't have the natural dating skills of the people who are highly active in the dating world, would it be better for him to try to study up on the rules of dating etiquette? Or should he just follow what makes sense in his heart, even knowing that it could be a mistake to the wrong lady?
Anything can be a mistake to anyone.
One girl likes this, while the other girl likes that.
Some girls fall for the "bad boys", others prefer the nerds.
Everyone has their own preference so a guy can read all the books and follow all the rules that he had read, it still wouldn't mean anything. There is no such thing as a dating manual because every single one of us is our own version, therefore, there is "rules" to follow.
If your "heart" tells you to send her flowers every day or tell her how much you worship her and to declare your love from the 3rd date....don't do it, learn the rules.
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