Dating at age 50+ (call, daughter, seeking, looking)

[Sailaway50]

Originally Posted by MaggieZ

when they fire too many questions at you on the first 'date', it's usually to take attention away from themselves.

That's an interesting comment, and I'm sure it's true, now that I think of it. It also feels like they're trying to get an "in" by getting info out of you.....too "tactical". Asking too many doesn't feel......normal.

[MaggieZ]

Especially if they give you nothing about themselves, that would make me wonder. I met one guy who kept saying 'no, I'm boring, I want to hear all about your exciting life'. Everytime I'd ask something, he'd counter with a question for me. Needless to say, I didn't meet him again.
Your instinct is really the best tool. Got to keep your wits about you in this world. I'm sure the same goes for men meeting women.

[7th generation]

Originally Posted by DimSumRaja

Even if someone is living in a cave at the top of a mountain, and they are supposed to be in a relaltionship, one day someone will come knocking on the rock door of the cave, and there they are. I love that!

How the heck did you find me?

I just turned 50 so I guess I'm "qualified" to post in this thread.

...........sorry, ain't got nothin'.................

It is refreshing to see all the posts made by very informative people. Sorta' makes you wonder if maybe we shouldn't start a dating site here!!

[Sailaway50]

Originally Posted by 7th generation

How the heck did you find me?

I just turned 50 so I guess I'm "qualified" to post in this thread.

...........sorry, ain't got nothin'.................

It is refreshing to see all the posts made by very informative people. Sorta' makes you wonder if maybe we shouldn't start a dating site here!!

Hmmmm.....interesting idea.

[VillageLife]

With that Harmony thing,They couldn't find anyone in California,Finally someone who was a firefighter from Houston was found. I told eharmony if I could get a certain type like executive type of people thay say no. I didn't have choices as far as profession is concerned.

[SCBeaches]

I'd like to jump in on this thread, if you don't mind....I'll be 50 in 2 weeks (as much as I can't believe it and don't want to admit it ) and am in the same boat as many of you. Been divorced for, gosh, about 14 years now. Have had several year-long relationships all of which I broke off for one reason or another. I've been fixed up by friends, had a few blind dates , and have tried E-Harmony, Christian Singles, and a few others for a month or two at a time - no success. My friends also tell me that I don't "put myself out there", as someone else said her friends say, and that I'm too picky, but hey - I have high standards and do not think I need to "settle". I own my own plantation-style home on a few acres and also 10 acres up in VA and travel with friends extensively so I don't NEED a man for financial security. I would just love to meet someone with Christian values and a good sense of humor...and someone who is not a couch potato. Is that too much to ask?

There aren't any unmarried men at work and no one under 100 at church (ha)..and I'm not going to meet the man of my dreams at a bar. So...what to do?? I'm not in a rush (after 14 years, I guess that's pretty obvious)but would like to meet someone for companionship and to just go places with and laugh with....and if it's meant to be - to grow old with. (maybe I'll be "old" after about 85 )

Once you're over 40, most men are either married, divorced w/baggage & issues, gay, bitter, alcoholics, etc. But, I haven't lost faith ....I know there are good ones left out there!!

Reading all your posts made me realize that I'm not alone...but it sure seems like it around here where all my friends are married.

Thanks for listening....

[Sailaway50]

I am in exactly the same boat and of the same opinion as you are....without the plantation style home (live in the city). I have had one blind date, weird, guy was talking to 30 year old women while in the car with me. That was IT. In my church, same....old. NIce people, but old. More women than men, anyway. I have two children, b ut they are getting older, so it's not a big high maintenance raising small children thing. Have not met ONE man, frankly, that I have thought "I might like to date him."

Even my good friend from high school said to me TODAY mind you, that "you're like a wife without a husband. You're pretty, nice, cultured, straight laced, my husband and I don't understand it. We really figured you'd have met someone by now or even be remarried." (I divorced in 2003).

Go figure. I have not been working outside the home, either, but even the few offices where I temp'd or talking to others..all married, or much younger if they're not. Very strange. I honestly don't think I'd meet someone at work, if I did work outside the home.

I'm not sure what gives.....but, what gives? I have come to terms with feeling like I was meant to concentrate on my chidlren (I guess?) during these past years....but NOTHING? Strange.......the world is changing, no doubt about it. The few divorced men I DO know of either date like HOUNDS, go out with (and marry) MUCH younger women or become "players"....... and I always got along great, just fine, with men, am certainly not a "man hater" by any means, so I don't understand this.

It just must not be my "time."

[2PAK]

I think many of us single men could say the same thing (if not more) about the available women who are 50+ (married, divorced w/baggage, bitter, gay, short bobbed hair, they have two or three cats, and the list could go on).

It's not a gender thing regarding availability it's your mind-set.

If you've been single 14 years, think about why that is and why you cant seem to find a steady date/male friend to watch a movie or laugh with.

By the way, we men are glad you dont "NEED" us for financial security.

[VillageLife]

Originally Posted by 2PAK

I think many of us single men could say the same thing (if not more) about the available women who are 50+ (married, divorced w/baggage, bitter, gay, short bobbed hair, they have two or three cats, and the list could go on).

It's not a gender thing regarding availability it's your mind-set.

If you've been single 14 years, think about why that is and why you cant seem to find a steady date/male friend to watch a movie or laugh with.

By the way, we men are glad you dont "NEED" us for financial security.

That's why it's a great idea to try the Meetup: World's largest community of local Meetups, clubs and groups! - Meetup.com Just meet socially with different groups. It's fun! try it. I went to a few.they are not necessarily singles groups. There are all types of things, just have fun and enjoy people,you never know.

[SCBeaches]

Originally Posted by 2PAK

I think many of us single men could say the same thing (if not more) about the available women who are 50+ (married, divorced w/baggage, bitter, gay, short bobbed hair, they have two or three cats, and the list could go on).

It's not a gender thing regarding availability it's your mind-set.

If you've been single 14 years, think about why that is and why you cant seem to find a steady date/male friend to watch a movie or laugh with.

By the way, we men are glad you dont "NEED" us for financial security.

No need to be ugly, really. I will disregard your post as you obviously didn't read all of mine or you wouldn't have said those things. Hm-m-m.