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Old 04-25-2015, 04:19 PM
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At first it didn't bother me cause I thought it was kinda cool that they were bonding. Plus my ex and I didn't break up on bad terms but now they're getting too close and it's starting to bother me mind that I still really care about the guy and can't really picture myself with anyone else long term. We don't talk like that anymore on agreement for the best at the moment but now I think I may have gotten a little jealous, maybe he likes spending better time with my brother than he ever did with me idk, I'm starting to see him a lot more too and it's making me miss him, I don't know what to do.
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Old 04-26-2015, 12:35 AM
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Why did you break up? Maybe your ex is looking for an excuse to be in your life still.
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Old 04-27-2015, 08:15 AM
Location: Vail, CO
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I'm still best friends with one of my cousins ex boyfriends.

He's a solid guy, she left him after she started working out and had tons of guys flirting with her. She ended up dating some of the meat heads at her gym. She figured she deserved better than her ex, so she broke things off. She's never had a relationship longer than a month or so after that.

He comes down to Vail to visit me on ski trips every now and then.
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Old 04-27-2015, 08:22 AM
Location: NNJ
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What's the alternative? Force your brother to push a good friend away? That wouldn't be the sisterly thing to do.

I'm not sure how close you are to your brother but you could simply talk to him that the break up is still pretty fresh for you. At least he would know and be sensitive about the situation.

It will be tough but I think you will have no choice but deal with your feelings. Find someway to move on.
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Old 04-27-2015, 08:33 AM
Location: NY
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So why did you break up if it wasn't bad terms and just "best for the moment."

Are you always jealous of your brother's "friends?"
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Old 05-09-2015, 07:06 PM
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My brother and I are really close we talk about almost everything so this did eventually come up.. while my ex and I were still dating I tried getting my brother to get to know him and he wanted nothing to do with him... so it was weird how they just up and hit it off after we broke up.. I just wish I knew what my ex was thinking I guess.. I'm over the break up but still care for him and just yesterday he was at the house with my brother of course and gave me a big hug, we didn't say much to each other..so I guess when he does little things like that he's letting me know that there's never any hard feelings and that he still cares? Idk
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Old 05-09-2015, 07:10 PM
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You cannot control who your brother is friends with and unless you ask your ex boyfriend what he is thinking you won't know.

Accept the fact they are friends, Deal with the situation as it is, Adapt to the current situation and figure out how to keep things cordial and friendly.
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Old 05-09-2015, 07:28 PM
Location: USA
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Are you jealous that he is close buddies with your bro because you two aren't in a relationship anymore? Leave it be. No sense in bringing drama between you and your brother
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