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Yes. There is a possibility.
Some people learn to abuse from their parents. Their early history consisted of receiving abuse themselves and/or seeing others abused (one parent abusing the other or their sibling, etc.). As a consequence, abuse is the normal condition of life for these people.
So, while not all abusers were abused as children, and many, if not most people who are abused do not go on to become abusers themselves, child abuse is most likely the single largest risk factor for later adult abusive behavior.
If the person I was dating came from an abusive background and received therapy for it..............I would be more inclined to date them because they are in touch with their issues and bettering themselves.
If they didn't do therapy I would consider it depending on the level of abuse and how our interaction is.
the man you're dating may himself become abusive? I know we all judge people as individuals but would the thought go through your head?
Tough question.
On one hand, I see the advantage of not grilling people too much on what their families are like or what their childhoods were like. Show me who you are today, and if you are a good man, I'll see how you have overcome your past when we are close enough and together long enough for you to trust me with the story.
But on the other hand, it took a few years for my ex-SO to start showing me what he was (a narcissist). Then, the more I dealt with his family, and the more comfortable his family was in displaying their bigotry and obnoxiousness, and the more I saw how his father treated him, I saw where he got it. His father would do to my ex-SO what my ex-SO would do to me: Talk over him, disrespect and disregard his ideas and thoughts, not tolerate any discussion that he couldn't control, etc. Same for his mother. She was big on giving people the silent treatment if she felt slighted. He totally got that passive-aggressive crap from her.
Yet this was the only relationship I've ever had where I've had to deal with such nonsense. I've had a good number of relationships lasting more than a year, been married, met a lot of families, and had never dealt with so many problems in either a man or his family.
All I know is if I ever experience such discomfort around a man's family again, I'll be running so fast, there will be smoke behind me.
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