She is a really bad kisser (female, older, sexy, friends)
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In my experience, this is nearly impossible to teach.
Good luck!
^^^seriously?^^^ I find that all you need to do is coach on how kissing isn't a mechanical thing any more than "petting"... you just go with the flow and enjoy/explore the sensations and physical reactions using everything at your disposal.
I'm pretty sure this can be taught unless the person is so out of touch with how to feel and how to empathize that I wouldn't even be interested in a sexual relationship with them to begin with.
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^^^seriously?^^^ I find that all you need to do is coach on how kissing isn't a mechanical thing any more than "petting"... you just go with the flow and enjoy/explore the sensations and physical reactions using everything at your disposal.
I'm pretty sure this can be taught unless the person is so out of touch with how to feel and how to empathize that I wouldn't even be interested in a sexual relationship with them to begin with.
That really can't be taught. That is part of someone's sensual core. It's there, or it isn't.
Kissing is a skill and people have different styles ... so treat this as a teaching moment.
I mean, you ain't gonna sell the Mercedes simply because it has a door ding, are ya?
That really can't be taught. That is part of someone's sensual core. It's there, or it isn't.
I don't agree with you. Good kissing method is definitely something that can be learned. I don't know what you're referring to about sensual core. Do you think paid porn stars are digging deep into their "sensual cores" when they're doing their work? Because some of that stuff is pretty sensual and erotic and I'm pretty certain they couldn't give a rat's behind about whom they are doing it to.
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Kissing is a skill and people have different styles ... so treat this as a teaching moment.
I mean, you ain't gonna sell the Mercedes simply because it has a door ding, are ya?
What's next? A thread complaining about bad bj's?
If it wasn't a PG13 forum, sure. There are loads of bad BJs out there. Unfortunately in my 20s and early 30s I ran into more than a few where I had to go the:
I try to be sympathetic; some people didn't play nearly enough Spin-The-Bottle, or maybe they've only been with other bad kissers? That can be improved upon, but if it's someone who doesn't think kissing is important and just wants to get down to business? They can't be helped and frankly, I believe they should be isolated from society and only date amongst themselves.
Seriously though, if someone who just doesn't know what the heck they are doing, try to take control of rhythm; tutor them on how to slowly build up the intensity and savor it.
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I don't agree with you. Good kissing method is definitely something that can be learned. I don't know what you're referring to about sensual core. Do you think paid porn stars are digging deep into their "sensual cores" when they're doing their work? Because some of that stuff is pretty sensual and erotic and I'm pretty certain they couldn't give a rat's behind about whom they are doing it to.
I never said it has anything to do with who they are doing it with. The other person doesn't make a person sensual.
And re porn stars being sensual and erotic: It is? How do you know?
Performing acts for a camera is nothing like performing it for the experience and the feelings that are given and received. Performers are doing it for angles, and for eroticism of the viewer, which is usually very different than what is erotic for the participant. Oral sex on, for example, that is good on women in real life looks absolutely nothing like what porn shows. It's one of the main reasons so many women complain about dudes that "learned" sex from watching porn.
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