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I've been dating this woman for a while, and things are really enjoyable, except that she is a really bad kisser, probably the worst of anybody that I've dated this long.
I've talked to her about it, but I think she is embarrassed by the topic. She claims that the reason is because, when most of us in our teen years spent hours making out (instead of taking things further), she was instead, just taking things further, and so never developed really good kissing technique.
I can't say I really liked this answer.. but that is a another story.
She also blames her ethnicity. She was born in the US, but her parents were not, and she claims that women from her ethnic background aren't really known to be great kissers, but prefer to just "peck". I know we aren't supposed to get into ethnic details here so not sure I should say more, but has anybody ever heard of people from certain ethnic backgrounds being bad kissers? I've dated a couple of other women from a similar background -- and I didn't experience this.
I shouldn't complain too much, because she is great at sex, but I'd like her to be better at kissing as well.
She tried using more tongue... but she was just licking the outside of my mouth randomly. It was as if she is from another planet.
The guy I am currently nursing a bad heartbreak over ( ) actually wasn't the best kisser in the world. His kissing style was different from what I'm used to.
It's hard to explain verbally, but he mostly kept his mouth wide open and kind of used his tongue and moved it all around my mouth...which kind of required me to keep my mouth wide open as well. I mostly prefer to pucker and gently slip the tongue in intermittently. I also will intermittently suck an upper or lower lip.
I think it's something we could have worked on had the relationship continued.
I've been able to turn around a couple of unsatisfying kissers, but I think they had the inherent talent. They just picked up on my physical cues and adjusted their styles accordingly.
Some cultures view kissing as disgusting. But I don't think anyone raised in America without this hangup would have absorbed that.
I dated a guy (briefly) who would somehow hit my teeth with his teeth every time we kissed. I just couldn't handle that and ended it. Kissing him was seriously traumatic.
Bad kissing can be a deal-breaker.....can it be "taught"? I don't know, the only bad kissers that I've had experience with didn't last too long.
Perhaps explain and show her? Take the lead?
Deal breakers for me include: Too much saliva (yuck), biting too hard etc. As for sucking on the lower lip......that's fine if it's intermittent and gentle. I once dated a guy who I thought was going to do some real damage. It almost seems comical now. Not good.
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) actually wasn't the best kisser in the world. His kissing style was different from what I'm used to.
