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My girlfriend is a mother and I forgot to wish her happy mothers day. I was out with my mother on mother's day and I texted my girlfriend that my mom wishes her happy mothers day. However, I did not wish my girlfriend happy mothers day. Now she is furious. She called me crying saying that she is badly hurt because of it. We had a planned date this week and she has cancelled. She asked if I wanted to give up on us.
We have been together 7 months and this is our first "fight". Although, it was not actually a fight. I basically apologized for my lapse but she hasn't forgiven me.
I'm writing here for some advice on a couple things.
1- How bad was this offense?
2- What steps could I take to remedy it?
3- Is it a relationship breaker? Or is it a sign that she may be unsure about other things in the relationship?
This is why I'm very cautious of being in relationships with women who already have established families. It's just a load of drama from sun up to sun down. You gotta be careful and know that her being a mother comes first before you.
I should also mention that she was really frantic on the phone. She said that I ruined her mothers day and that I made her cry in front of her kids.
All I could say was that I was sorry. I didn't want things to escalate. And to be honest I wasn't sure how bad the offense was (I've never dated a woman with kids before and thus have never wished a girlfriend happy mothers day). I've also learned that if someone is upset its best not to argue with them and to just let them get out what they want to say.
Seven months in and the relationship has been great until today. I'm not the type that cuts and runs at the first sign of trouble, but I'm getting the impression that she might be.
If this one minor thing made her furious, hysterical and ruined her Mother's Day that is her issue alone.
She sounds like a candidate for a very dramatic future.
I told my Mother Happy Mother's Day but she is my Mother. I did not tell every woman I know who is a Mother the same, they are my friends not my Mother.
Run and keep on running. When you can't run no more, get a cab, recover in the cab, have the cab drop you off, then keep on running. This chick is Looney Tunes man, get out while you can!
Making such a huge deal over a completely non issue? Oh brother...what will happen when something happens that is mildly important. What will she do then, shoot you?
She really needs to pick her battles better. And so do you.
She's totally overreacting and it makes me wonder if she's deliberately sabotaging the relationship. After all, if she thinks it's been as great as you do, why would she want to throw it away over such a trivial thing? It would have been nice for you to wish her a Happy Mother's Day, but she's being a huge drama queen. It's hard to believe you haven't seen this side of her before.
All you can do is apologize ONCE for your oversight. If you do anything more than that, you're playing into her manipulation and that'll let her know that by throwing a tantrum she can get her way with you. Let her realize for herself that she's being completely ridiculous.
I should also mention that she was really frantic on the phone. She said that I ruined her mothers day and that I made her cry in front of her kids.
I would break up with her based on this alone. ^^^
She is holding YOU responsible for HER emotions, which is bullsh*t.
I spy an immature, self-centered woman who will make your life seem long and painful if you stay with her.
FYI In the future, be better about doling out holiday greetings as appropriate. Just be aware that it's not ok for someone to blame YOU for their reaction.
I agree with the rest. Run do not walk away. Why? She's threatening a break up over such a trivial matter? She will do more of this, always expecting you to apologize. She wants a doormat, not a man.
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