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She might be worried that it will cause repercussions that will make her work life a terrible ordeal. Is he her superior?
Despite the fact it is highly unethical and probably illegal, the kinds of issues this kind of report will cause may be more than she's prepared to handle.
Encourage her to firmly ask him to stop if it happens again. Take notes of the time, date, and situation each time something sexually uncomfortable happens between them.
If it doesn't cease after she asks him to stop, then she will need to report it. Odds are, she's not the only victim.
I didnt say anything as i didnt want him to feel it was bugging me or like you say getting a reaction out of me. Im just questioning to myself why my girlfriend didnt say anything and how this has just come about out of nowhere, for him to do it twice and her not to say anything just looks like she enjoys it from him, either that or she doesnt know what to do about it.
This is something she has to do, not you.
You will be the controlling, untrusting boyfriend if you start something.
Talk to her. If she needs your backup then be there for her.
This is the reason keeping romance out of the office is a good idea.
This incident has caused you to be distracted from your duties as a paid employee.
It is up to her to tell this man to keep his hands to himself, if she does not tell him that is her choice.
Keep your personal life out of the office and it is usually best to keep Romance, Religion and Politics out of the office as well.
She might be worried that it will cause repercussions that will make her work life a terrible ordeal. Is he her superior?
Despite the fact it is highly unethical and probably illegal, the kinds of issues this kind of report will cause may be more than she's prepared to handle.
Encourage her to firmly ask him to stop if it happens again. Take notes of the time, date, and situation each time something sexually uncomfortable happens between them.
If it doesn't cease after she asks him to stop, then she will need to report it. Odds are, she's not the only victim.
^^^^ this.
I have taken lots of crap at work (sexual harassment) because I didn't want to stir up too much trouble for a simple little touching here and there, until I got older.
I am assuming your gf is pretty shy and the coworker is using her niceness to mess with her.
She needs to put her foot down. Not you. She needs to handle it.
Im going to bring it up with my girlfriend again tonight. Neither of us are confrontational people but thinking about it I dont think its right, I just dont get why she doesnt say anything to him as she usually tells people to back off over things like that. Part of me is like its only a pat on the ass but still he shouldnt be doing it should he.
Everyone at work knows that we are together, i just know i wouldnt do that to a fellows colleagues girl so why should i have to put up with that too.
Technically, it's sexual assault. It's completely unacceptable in workplaces in the US. I take it you're in the UK. Are there workplace regulations about that sort of thing?
She might be worried that it will cause repercussions that will make her work life a terrible ordeal. Is he her superior?
Despite the fact it is highly unethical and probably illegal, the kinds of issues this kind of report will cause may be more than she's prepared to handle.
Encourage her to firmly ask him to stop if it happens again. Take notes of the time, date, and situation each time something sexually uncomfortable happens between them.
If it doesn't cease after she asks him to stop, then she will need to report it. Odds are, she's not the only victim.
That's what sexual harassment regs are for; to prevent backlash. If she reports it, and he causes some kind of problem for her, he'll be toast.
Who is this guy, OP? Is he a supervisor? Is he well-connected with management, so he thinks he can get away with this? What gives?
If I were in my 20's, and some guy did that to me at work, I might be too shy to confront him, but I wouldn't be too shy to report him to the office manager or Human Resources, if I knew there were policies against that.
Just had an evening with my girlfriend and i brought it up that it had bothered me. She said she was sorry for how it effected me and she didnt realise how it looked. She mentioned to me that she has told him a few times in the past to not be so touchy with herself and after seeing how he was yesterday he clearly doesn't get the message.
My girlfriend has told me she will have a firm word with him if he does it again, im sure its only a matter of time as he seems to think its a fine thing to do. If i see him do it again i will have a word myself, i dont want to overreact but its not nice seeing my girlfriend being touched up by a man double our age and i think it just shows disrespect to myself and my girlfriend.
He is not our superior, we are all the same level at the moment i just feel she feels a bit akward making a scene, but she shouldnt have to feel like she has to put up with it, and im not going to.
Just to be clear i didnt blame my girlfriend at all in anyway, just that i felt uncomfortable seeing how he was with her yesterday and that she shouldnt be ok with it. I might make him sound like an old perv but we do all get on, its not like hes a creep that nobody likes, but he still shouldnt be acting that way towards my girlfriend or any girl at work.
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