News, Woman Has 136 Online Dates, No Second Date (statistics, personality, definition)
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Knowing what you want, having realistic expectations and being reasonably picky is key to success in dating, but 136 dates and no 2nd dates? That's very extreme.
1) If she has gone on that many dates, she's probably not filtering her dates as much as she should
2) No matter how bad the candidate pool is, statistically speaking, at least some small percentage of those 136 dates should turn out decent and worthy of a 2nd date. Her expectations are probably out of whack (perhaps she wants a ring on the first date, who knows... I will not attempt to understand this silly woman).
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Originally Posted by Sweetlilac
Knowing what you want, having realistic expectations and being reasonably picky is key to success in dating, but 136 dates and no 2nd dates? That's very extreme.
1) If she has gone on that many dates, she's probably not filtering her dates as much as she should
2) No matter how bad the candidate pool is, statistically speaking, at least some small percentage of those 136 dates should turn out decent and worthy of a 2nd date. Her expectations are probably out of whack (perhaps she wants a ring on the first date, who knows... I will not attempt to understand this silly woman).
She is doing it all wrong.
You're missing the common denominator. HER.
It is pretty clear SHE is the issue, which is why she'll never escape the problem, without a whole lot of self awareness and self improvement.
It’s basic biological drive for men to want to date younger females. I have little desire to chase women who are 40 plus.
I think it's a biological drive for men to want to date women they find physically attractive. Unfortunately men find women less attractive the older they get. Same as women.
Both sexes prefer to date someone they find physically attractive. Again, the older we get the pool of men and women our age we find physically attractive shrinks. It's not that either sex wants youth, it's just the younger are attractive.
I've read some posts of older women finding it hard to find a suitable mate past a certain age even though they get a lot of dates, like the woman the OP is talking about. There's probably some truth in that those 136 guys she dated have aged horribly and become unattractive over time. It happens to both sexes.
Of course I do think there's something wrong about that woman meeting all those men and not giving any of them a second date besides the looks factor.
That's what I'm thinking. She's certainly pretty. So there is something else going on. She probably throws red flags out left and right. Some people are constantly putting their foot in their mouth without realizing. Like the people who are obsessed with lifestyle and money, etc. and are constantly talking about it. These are the people that tend to end up being single and confused as to why nobody likes them.
This is funny to me because I know someone who was doing OLD as a hobby, not actually expecting anything but blogging about her failures.
I went back on OKC last month so I could blog about my experience that contrary to popular belief not all women get flooded with messages just by throwing up a halfway decent picture.
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Originally Posted by Fargobound
I have little desire to chase women who are 40 plus.
Then don't. *shrugs* It's really that simple. Chase who you want. Just because you don't find women over a certain age attractive doesn't mean ALL men feel that way, just like because I don't find redheads the least bit attractive doesn't mean ALL women shoot them down.
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Originally Posted by Sweetlilac
Knowing what you want, having realistic expectations and being reasonably picky is key to success in dating, but 136 dates and no 2nd dates? That's very extreme.
1) If she has gone on that many dates, she's probably not filtering her dates as much as she should
2) No matter how bad the candidate pool is, statistically speaking, at least some small percentage of those 136 dates should turn out decent and worthy of a 2nd date. Her expectations are probably out of whack (perhaps she wants a ring on the first date, who knows... I will not attempt to understand this silly woman).
She is doing it all wrong.
She's looking for a unicorn. Someone who perfectly matches every single item on her checklist.
It’s basic biological drive for men to want to date younger females. I have little desire to chase women who are 40 plus.
Who cares? That's not what the thread is about, and I'm sure women who are 40-plus don't care. I certainly don't.
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