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I have been in a relationship with this guy for 2 years and we have been friends for a year before that. He is 28 years old and I am 22 years old if that matters. I found his OkCupid account on his computer and he has been hitting on other girls. He claims he hasn't had sex or cheated on me but he lied about what he was doing on the account. He claims he has urges to have sex with other people but loves me. He claims that this is a need and that it is a deal breaker for us if I don't agree to those terms. I feel uncomfortable with him sleeping with other girls as he is not very good at communicating and he is very selfish at times. I need help making up my mind as I see him tomorrow here are my three options on how things will go.
1. we break up but I think I would have to cut him out of my life completely but please note I am very attached to him.
2. we take a break for a month and get back together and get it out of his system.
3. We remain monogamous. I agree to his terms but I probably won't be very happy about this arrangement and if we do this in the long term I want to be monogamous later.
If anyone can think of a middle ground that would be great. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to compromise myself for him.
Would you be OK having sex with other men....AND would your boyfriend be OK if you had other men? If you guys are both OK with that, you could be swingers or find a lifestyle that allows for an open relationship.
However, if he wants to fool around but doesn't want you to fool with other guys, he's a hypocrite and you need to leave him.
It would be completely pointless for you to stay at this point because it's very likely that he has already been doing this behind your back before you found out and the only reason he's talking about it now is cause you found out. But it's been going on already for who knows how long. At this point he's used goods so why would you even want to consider staying with him? I understand attachment due to being together a while but this is ridiculous.
The fact that he already set up an account and started pursuing women behind your back should shut down any chance of this proposed arrangement working out.
Forget it. I would not compromise my needs for a cheater! Id dump him in a heartbeat with no regrets and definitely no attraction. Because what makes a guy who has sex with lots of other women, while hes in a relationship, attractive? Nothing! Hes a sleazeball. Dont you want better?
Forget it. I would not compromise my needs for a cheater! Id dump him in a heartbeat with no regrets and definitely no attraction. Because what makes a guy who has sex with lots of other women, while hes in a relationship, attractive? Nothing! Hes a sleazeball. Dont you want better?
Some people never experienced a good relationship and dont know what better is; it stems from their low self-esteem.
I feel sorry for you, OP. The fact that you would even consider staying with this guy tells me that you really need to work on your self esteem and should probably seek therapy as soon as you dump him.
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