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Meh, he's dishonest, and she's not polyamorous (giving the benefit of the doubt, and assuming he's actually polyamorous, and not just a guy who wants to have sex with whomever, whenever as the urge strikes while enjoying the other benefits of having a FT girlfriend).
He needs to be in a relationship with somebody who is oriented to and desiring of the same type of relationship he is, as does she. They are wasting time with one another.
This isn't about "Oh, these awful people who condemn different choices." It's about finding people who are compatible with you. Someone who wants a polyamorous lifestyle isn't compatible in the relationship department with somebody who doesn't.
Or are you suggesting that she should somehow change what SHE wants to be more in line with what he wants? Or is he somehow condemning her different wants?
Niether, was just throwing it out there. Thinking he might just want a side piece or two, actually, even if he was, he didn't come correct.
Niether, was just throwing it out there. Thinking he might just want a side piece or two, actually, even if he was, he didn't come correct.
Okay.
I would imagine that if one prefers polyamory, the reasonable thing to do would be seek out relationships where others are aware of this and can choose to enter into the relationship informed. Doesn't seem like that's what's happened, here, though.
I typically don't say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," because people can and do curb their behavior if they have sufficient incentive to do so.
But I do strongly believe that people who've been proven to be untrustworthy can't, in the future, be fully trusted. Maybe they WILL never cheat again. But I don't know that, and so why would I stake my life and happiness on the "maybes" of a known liar? Even if they do, indeed, never cheat or lie again, trust is gone, and that's the bottom line.
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I typically don't say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," because people can and do curb their behavior if they have sufficient incentive to do so.
But I do strongly believe that people who've been proven to be untrustworthy can't, in the future, be fully trusted. Maybe they WILL never cheat again. But I don't know that, and so why would I stake my life and happiness on the "maybes" of a known liar? Even if they do, indeed, never cheat or lie again, trust is gone, and that's the bottom line.
I can't argue with that.
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