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Primarily i wanted to know what she meant by 'you can just feel if it works or not' if you haven't been out on dates to see if there was a connection how can someone say that? like i said if we went for a drink and there wasn't any chemistry for her then i would probably understand.
Primarily i wanted to know what she meant by 'you can just feel if it works or not' if you haven't been out on dates to see if there was a connection how can someone say that? like i said if we went for a drink and there wasn't any chemistry for her then i would probably understand.
She knew enough about you from being around you at work that she didn't want to go out romantically.
That's it. Some people are not a match. You move on to the next one.
Possibly true, but people are different outside of work, you see different sides of people when they ain't in the stress of work, so they see different attributes in the personality.
Except that she knows enough about you from your interactions to not want anything further, or she doesn't date people from work. Either way, you accept her decision and get on with your life.
Primarily i wanted to know what she meant by 'you can just feel if it works or not' if you haven't been out on dates to see if there was a connection how can someone say that? like i said if we went for a drink and there wasn't any chemistry for her then i would probably understand.
Actually, that's not the part that threw me. I thought her riff on "standards" was odd and irrelevant. But aside from that, she was fairly clear with you. She doesn't see you as a romantic prospect, that's all. Pretty straightforward. She shouldn't have to dissect it for you. Sorry, OP. Lick your wounds, and move on.
You added sexually. Not him. This is indicative a very toxic mindset.
He expressed feelings for her. Not her body. Not a desire to bang her. He told her "I like you," not "I want to bang you." There is absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting to "be friends" with someone you have romantic feelings for that doesn't reciprocate. In fact, that can be a very unhealthy relationship.
It's sad that he has to be shamed for it, but that's today's toxic mindset many women have.
ROFL
OK, new person. Welcome to the forum.
Guess what ... OP said in his first post he found her "attractive." And guess what kind of "attraction" he had for her?
It's the only thing that separates "friends" from "romance."
haha yeah.....pretty thin. I feel bad that's the first place you go to. It's pretty obvious he liked her. But go on, shame shame shame.
Yeah, it's true, he said he was attracted by her personality, as he got to know her at work. Kudos to the OP. But Wmsn's point was that he's only interested in her if she want's to be his gf, not if she wants to be a friend. And we all know what being a gf entails. In other words, he wasn't interested in adding a great personality to his roster of friends; he couldn't value her just for that.
Though I can sympathize with the OP. That can be difficult for some people to do; it's like--every time you see your (ex-) love interest, you're reminded of your disappointment. You're reminded of that rejection.
You're basically saying I think she's worthless. Even if you just say hello, any glint of communication can give you false hope she will change her mind, it won't.
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