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I think love is enough, that it has to be on both sides, and that people who "fall in love" with people who treat them horribly do not really know what love is yet because they are damaged enough to believe that someone who loves them would be okay with seeing them hurting in such a way.
Love is not enough to me. Sorry, Love doesn't pay the bills, or guarantee much of anything--it's an emotions, and it can be fleeting. People fall in and out of love all the time. You need more than just "love", you NEED to be compatible, have similar core values, similar goals, and have a friendship and foundation to hold the relationship together. Love is nice and it's needed obviously, but without the other components, unfortunately it is NOT enough. At least not to me. I learned that the hard way.
I agree. You could easily love someone who is toxic for you. You can also be in love with someone knowing in the end it's not enough to keep you together.
Concur.
I don't know the history people are referring to in here OP but no, love by itself isn't enough.
I also dont know your plans. Just to be in love? Great. Get married and stay married? You need a lot more than love, especially if you want to raise kids with this person.
Plenty of people are wildly in love on their wedding day then down the road grow to resent each other and treat each other poorly.
Love is fun and nice but it does wear off. The chemical reaction calms down and you are left with what? I hope in your case commitment and a deep friendship. That gushy fun ride doesnt last forever, well usually.
Last edited by magpiehere; 05-22-2015 at 03:25 PM..
There was a song about love not being enough. I hated it. Because it brought to light that it was true for me and my husband. We were not compatible. I did love him, and still care about him. We are divorced now. I just texted him and asked him if he wanted some tamales. I still care for him, but do I want to live with him? Hell no.
Love does not equal compatibility. Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term.
There are many components to love. Some of what the writer states I can buy. While there may be attraction, chemistry and all that, it is not the sum of the whole that is sustainable love.
There was a song about love not being enough. I hated it. Because it brought to light that it was true for me and my husband.
"There's a danger in loving somebody too much,
and it's sad when you know it's your heart you can't trust.
There's a reason why people don't stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes love just ain't enough."
Great song.
EDIT: Oh whoops I just saw that you hated it. Sorry, i wasn't rubbing it in.
I was in love with someone long time ago. He was not a good guy, not at all. He was different when he was with me. Then he was different to other women and with guys. Piece by piece I got to know his trueself. He acted a total different person with me and I could not look such a liar. Of course I was already deep in my feelings. It was very hard to say no always when my heart shout out yes. It hurt, it made me cry. But now I know I did a right thing.
Hell, you can love a drug addict, an alcoholic, a child molester, someone who beats you.
Many people have known all the above. A girl who I date was molested by here step father. Her mother and the step fathers bio children are still with him because they love him. Wonderful thing this love is
I won't even stay with someone who is too far right or left politically, but I guess if I was truly in love with them I wouldn't care
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