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Let me clarify, I am in no way expecting her to sit around and wait for me, that's why I'd prefer to be honest with her and not string her along. She's attractive, smart, and funny...I totally understand that chances of me getting with her again are slim to none, since she probably won't stay single for long. But I just want to do this in a way that if there is a possibility of it ever happening again, she doesn't dismiss me as a total jerk.
Personally, I would not get back with the ex but that wasn't your initial concern.
I would say that you should speak with this woman with the respect and care that you have related the circumstances to us, whether you resume your relationship with her again...or not.
'Disappearing acts' are extremely disrespectful and bad karma, imo. Good luck!
Met a woman took her out on a couple of dates, was pretty into her thus far, and pretty sure she feels the same way. We've been intimate, but I can tell she's a bit guarded and cautious when it comes to relationships.
Anyway my ex gf who broke up with me a couple of months ago, contacted me this past week, we met up and she wants to reconcile. We were together about 6 months or so, and I've realized I still have feelings for her, and would like to give it another try.
I know I obviously can't have both women, and since I really want to give my relationship another try I have to break it off with this woman, or do I even? I mean it's been 5 dates, I know both guys and girls have disappeared after more than that without a word (I know I have). I just really liked and respect her, and while I know this may sound horrible, I'm thinking if it doesn't work out with my ex, I would like to date this woman again.
So my question is should I just be honest with this girl? Tell her the ex is back in the picture? Or do I just disappear without a word since we never even discussed being exclusive or anything?
Tell your ex you are seeing somebody right now.
That tells her you are not sitting around with nobody. You will also appear to be more desirable too.
You could say, "wish you would have contacted me sooner." That gives the idea you are still interested but are unavailable right now.
That tells her you are not sitting around with nobody. You will also appear to be more desirable too.
You could say, "wish you would have contacted me sooner." That gives the idea you are still interested but are unavailable right now.
My ex knows I've been seeing someone. Going back to her wasn't a split second decision, we spoke over the phone and met in person, after seeing her is when I decided that I would like to give our relationship another shot.
My ex knows I've been seeing someone. Going back to her wasn't a split second decision, we spoke over the phone and met in person, after seeing her is when I decided that I would like to give our relationship another shot.
Well, if the feelings are mutual and you both realized you want to try again than great!
However!! A word of caution though... She may have dumped you when she saw something better out there...OR seemed to be better. After leaving you and finding what was suppose to be better was not. SO.... She decides to go back to you... But when you are taken...well, she has nothing.
This will be good for her.
Stick with the plan and stop melting with her words.
You say your break with the ex was both of your faults? So if you did her wrong and she left you, I don't see how it would repeat again unless you cross her line again. I wouldn't worry about her leaving you for someone else, like many others have mentioned here.
If I were in that situation, I would simply tell the new person that you really like them but you are getting serious with an old friend and being that you are a monogamous kind of guy, you want to pursue the other relationship with her exclusively. Tell her you don't think its right to not be committed to the person you are involved with. The end. There is almost nothing you can say to break it off with the new woman that won't put a bad taste in her mouth about you; but at least she will think positively of you (somewhat) if you show her that you are serious about commitment. The noble thing is to be honest and tell her. Don't just disappear.
Everyone here is telling him not go back to his ex, and while I don't think its a fabulous idea--because I too am of the belief that an ex is an ex for a reason--if he still has strong feelings for his ex, he really shouldn't be dating the new girl either.
Not sure if its a great idea to jump back in a relationship full force with the ex, but I think you need to spend some time with her and see if there is still something there, since you feel strong enough about her that you are willing to leave a woman you claim you are into.
I recently went through something similar, the guy told me he went back to his ex, he was honest and I appreciated it. So just be honest with the new girl, chances are she's not going to like what she's hearing but its not like you've been with her for months, so I'm sure part of her will understand (as did I).
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