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If you don't like the thread than don't read it. I don't get people sometime. If I don't like or agree with sometime that is posted, here or on FB etc....I just scroll past it. As for someone asking above if my requests are spur of the moment. Usually not. I ask ahead of time. His own things are unplanned.
Makes two of us then. Where I don't get those they spend years doing and dealing with the same thing over and over and expecting change, and being surprised when it doesn't happen. You have numerous threads about your husband. With that, are you expecting people's advice to be any different than the last 5 threads?
You never have anything good to say about your husband. He does the same crap again and again, and you nag. But you see he doesn't care and will do what he wants. You expect that to randomly change?
So, only advice I can give you is consider some serious therapy. Electric shock treatment or something. People who keep going back for more of the same and expecting different time and time again have some form of insanity happening. And I am not being mean. it's really true. I have seen others with this problem.
You need to do something other than nag and whine. Because after all this time, seems clear it's not working.
Your husband is selfish. But it's not his fault at this point that you're unhappy. You stay with him, despite his selfishness, so now your unhappiness in the relationship is your own fault.
Makes two of us then. Where I don't get those they spend years doing and dealing with the same thing over and over and expecting change, and being surprised when it doesn't happen. You have numerous threads about your husband. With that, are you expecting people's advice to be any different than the last 5 threads?
You never have anything good to say about your husband. He does the same crap again and again, and you nag. But you see he doesn't care and will do what he wants. You expect that to randomly change?
So, only advice I can give you is consider some serious therapy. Electric shock treatment or something. People who keep going back for more of the same and expecting different time and time again have some form of insanity happening. And I am not being mean. it's really true. I have seen others with this problem.
You need to do something other than nag and whine. Because after all this time, seems clear it's not working.
Your husband is selfish. But it's not his fault at this point that you're unhappy. You stay with him, despite his selfishness, so now your unhappiness in the relationship is your own fault.
Someone told me this sounds like narcissistic behavior?
Looking for some other explanation for his behavior will not change the truth. Your husband is an alcoholic. To answer the question in your title: because he is an alcoholic.
Someone told me this sounds like narcissistic behavior?
Could be, depending on his other behavior. With my ex-SO it was. He could take a day off from work to go putter around a lumber yard with his brother looking for cheap wood, but he couldn't take a few hours off to attend the second half of my nephew's wake. POS or narcissist: Does it really matter? Your husband is a selfish oaf. I suggest not catering to him.
I also suggest not even bothering to invite him to any event of yours that takes place on a day he has to work. Just go and have fun without him, and if he gets bent that you didn't invite him, you need only to say, "You had to work and wouldn't have been able to go, anyway."
And given your other posts, I would suggest that one of those outings be to a divorce attorney.
I'm just asking why he does this. Another example. He always keeps me waiting when we have to go somewhere do he can finish hid games on his phone but the other day he was hungry and wanted to go get dinner. All I had to do was change my shoes and he got mad. I told him he always keeps me waiting and he response is the he has hungry.
Because he loves to play these ridiculous passive aggressive games with you. And you must love it too, that and the drama of posting about it endlessly.
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