Why does my husband this? Feel so manipulated (dating, man, love)
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He leaves early from work if he feels like it. Can make a Dr appt whenever he needs to and leave. (He works for family) but the few times I ask him to leave early to go to my work Christmas party or meet me for lunch he always says he can't. I asks him why he is always able to when he needs to but when I ask him he never can. And he will just turn it around and say "Do you want me to lose my job!?" He did end up leaving early to go to my Christmas party but told me because he left he probably wouldn't have a job on Monday. Which was completely fabricated. He always tells me he has to work late or work Saturday but in 7 years I think he has gone in on sat or worked late once. So when I make plans for us with friends he says he might have to work. I tell him he always says that but never goes in. And his response is "fine, I won't go in so we can go with your friends, but I'll probably be fired!" It's all such made up crap. I don't know what is motive is. He always just seems to turn things around and make it my fault. Like we are trying to buy a house and he is blaming me for not finding one because I don't want to commute to far to work....when he is the one having issues with every place we look at. Too small, too expensive etc....and then changing what he says every 2 seconds and confusing me.
Someone told me this sounds like narcissistic behavior?
You have a lot of complaints about your husband. Have you followed any previous advice?
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I'm just asking why he does this. Another example. He always keeps me waiting when we have to go somewhere do he can finish hid games on his phone but the other day he was hungry and wanted to go get dinner. All I had to do was change my shoes and he got mad. I told him he always keeps me waiting and he response is the he has hungry.
Op, this is like the millionth thread/rant about how much you think your husband sucks, I'd love to hear his perspective about you. I think you've already been given a lot of advice, and my suggestion is still marital counseling or split.
Does he plan his excursions well in advance while your requests are closer to the day it is needed? He's probably a douche, but this could make a difference. The fact that you two can't communicate well enough to understand each other on this does not look good for the relationship.
If you're gonna do nothing but complain...then there is no point in posting on this thread. Either leave the man or suck it up and deal with it.
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