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Originally Posted by Tzaphkiel
if two people agree to date each other "exclusively" and not date others, then for me that means DELETING the account, not just hiding it. So what if i have to recreate the profile? Keeping the profile "just in case" says to me they are not committed to dating one person exclusively, and they are not that interested in having the relationship work out. And yes if someone says they'll delete the account, you bet I check on it, and have no problem with someone else checking that on me too.
of course anyone can just create another account with a different user name, but i would say trust your gut and pay attention to red flags
That isn't too smart, especially when deleting it means you have to re-answer 400+ questions to really make it work well again.
That isn't too smart, especially when deleting it means you have to re-answer 400+ questions to really make it work well again.
Yea I agree, especially if you are still a paying member. Creating those profiles is not fun, I'd just hide mine and if down the line the relationship ended in marriage, I'd delete the profile (that is if I'd even remember that I have one out there lol).
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Yea I agree, especially if you are still a paying member. Creating those profiles is not fun, I'd just hide mine and if down the line the relationship ended in marriage, I'd delete the profile (that is if I'd even remember that I have one out there lol).
You probably won't. There are some profiles by people I l know that I see from time to time and they've been married and inactive for years and years... they just never bothered to delete it. Probably don't realize it is still up.
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That all goes into how serious do you think the relationship is going to be?
No, not at all. You never know how a relationship will be.
There is just no reason to delete it. Deleting it doesn't make things suddenly more likely to work. Just disable it. Same effect. What reason would be there to delete it? Just some nonsensical token of undying love or something? I don't think anyone my age would by into such crud. People aren't so gullible or naive.
No, not at all. You never know how a relationship will be.
There is just no reason to delete it. Deleting it doesn't make things suddenly more likely to work. Just disable it. Same effect. What reason would be there to delete it? Just some nonsensical token of undying love or something? I don't think anyone my age would by into such crud. People aren't so gullible or naive.
Ehhh.
I think hanging onto it is keeping one foot in and one foot out. Sure - in the beginning, disable it... but once you've been with someone for a few months, feel like it will continue that way, what's the point of keeping it around?
I think hanging onto it is keeping one foot in and one foot out. Sure - in the beginning, disable it... but once you've been with someone for a few months, feel like it will continue that way, what's the point of keeping it around?
I think after a while of not using it you just forget its there. I have a friend who had POF account, she's been in a relationship for 2 years, and hasn't signed into her account during that time. I was talking to her about OLD the other day, and she remembered that she still had that POF account.
I think hiding it should be enough. I really don't recall ever going online when I was dating someone I really liked and checking to see if they had been logging on. Maybe I preferred denial, but I just didn't see what good could come of that. You check once and see they have, then you're checking every single day. And I've heard many people say that feature isn't even accurate. There's just too many ways to check up on someone these days. A person could drive themselves crazy checking online dating profiles, smart phones, social media, etc. to see what their SO is up to. You either trust someone, or you don't.
I believe with the addictive part, but I don't believe in anything else you said. I can definitely agree that these sites tend to be addictive to people and they get caught up more in taking options, instead of actually truly trying to get to know the person in front of them. The entire process becomes old and tiresome. You can easily feel like you're just going round and round in a circle.
I'm not saying people can't or won't find love online, ((it's not hard at all to see or feel love for anyone if you want it bad enough )) - but that's the circle, and cycle of the world online. Meet, f#/ , and move on.... Not everyone will get sucked in, some people are really smart & straight to business. But it is a dating loop, and the more hits, the more $ they make. And the more $ you spend on fancy dates is really stimulating the economy! Sex sure sells! /tangent lol
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/tangent lol
