** Are These Decent First Messages For Online Dating ??? **

[abrandnewme18]

Your responses are way too long and you are trying way too hard. It's much better than just "hey" but sometimes less is more. You need to be unique and funny in your first message. Don't talk about yourself too much, they don't really care. Point out ONE thing in their profile, and mention that, not a whole bunch of things. You have to be creative enough to stand out from the rest of guys wanting her.

And Wtf is up with you pointing out your flaws? "I have asbergers" "You might not find me attractive" "I hope you find me attractive". Women like a confident guy, no one is perfect but always make yourself look as good as possible. You sound like a wimp and a guy women can take advantage of and friendzone. I hope I don't sound harsh, but I am just giving you my honest opinions.

[ohio_peasant]

It is both gratifying and dispiriting to see that the styles of profiles, and communication in general, differs little from London UK and London Ohio. Perhaps there really is something universal to universal human urges.

I have no useful advice to the OP, as my own messages and responses are even more verbose, than those for which the OP has been widely panned by other respondents. Perhaps, as with many things, the best strategy is high-frequency attempts, alloyed with dispassionate demeanor.