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I really can't believe that you don't get it. This isn't about women being entitled to hit men. We aren't saying that women should hit men while they are in labor. And you clearly don't understand the first thing about childbirth. What most of us are saying is that these aren't normal circumstances and the woman isn't thinking clearly. There is no male equivalent to giving birth. But like most of us have said, if our husbands were in extreme pain and lashed out at us - we probably wouldn't hold it against them either. You seem so fixated on making this about abuse against men that you aren't able to actually see the actual situation clearly.
Fair enough, you can't. I think it's safe to say that there's no point in us carrying on our conversation.
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Originally Posted by MoonBeam33
What about if there is provocation? Is it ok then?
If it were a proportional response to an act of violence or to an imminent threat thereof, then of course it would be OK. She shouldn't be expected to sit there and take it.
Out of sheer boredom I actually went back a re-read the question and 2 things I don't understand.
1) why did he go online to ask total strangers should he be mad about a slap. I mean either you are mad or you aren't, you don't need other folks to tell you how to feel.
2)As another poster pointed out, could he more self centered? We are talking about the birth of a child you help create. Every one's emotions are running high, but instead of relishing in the moment of your child's birth you are stuck on a slap. It sounds as though this was out of character for her, heck for all we know she could not remember a thing because of medication...like I said earlier, he needs to let it go, and enjoy your new baby!
I can't remember who did this... but they scared me... on purpose. Success. I clip them in the jaw.
There are unique circumstances where it is understandable that someone might not have complete control over their automatic responses.
If I slapped my husband during labor, he would be telling that story to anyone who would listen for years to come.
I guess according to some I should be hauled off for child abuse. When my nephew was about 3-4, his mother and I were standing outside talking when the little turd came up behind me and bit me right on the butt cheek I automatically reached back with a slap (I thought I had been stung) that landed right across his face. We were all horrified.
I know that since this thread started, countless women gave birth to countless children without assaulting anyone within reach. Stop making excuses for the one who couldn't.
Thing is you don't know the countless women who did assault anyone within reach.
Come back with your opinions after you have delivered a child from your body.
Which answer would excuse domestic violence for you?
lack of Intent.
In order for it to be domestic violence there must be intent.
Persons who strike out under extreme involuntary duress lack intent to abuse or injure.
Get it?
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