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A guy on a dating site sends you a wink, a like or an email, then next day you go on and discover they've hidden their profiles. I find that so annoying, it's like you didn't just meet a girl last night for the first time and decide to hide your profile, it's obviously something you have been contemplating for a while. So I don't get why reach out to someone, if you're going to hide your profile anyway??? Lets get real here, most woman on these sites will not talk to a man with hidden profile (I know I wouldn't).
For instance yesterday I got a notification that a guy liked 2 of my pics, by the time I went on to go see who it was the guy's profile was faded because it was hidden, and that's not the first time something like this has happened.
I mean if you are seeing someone and are thinking of hiding your profile because of it, don't wink or email anybody else because it sort of defeats the purpose. I understand people hide their profiles for different reasons, but nevertheless hiding a profile means you want to take a break from online dating, so there's no point in contacting anybody on there anyway.
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I don't always know when I'm going to take a break. I turned my profile on yesterday and have it on today, but well may have it off for the weekend and next week. I honestly don't give too much thought to this crap.
It is far worse to keep it on when you're not actively looking at the moment like so many people seem to do.
I don't always know when I'm going to take a break. I turned my profile on yesterday and have it on today, but well may have it off for the weekend and next week. I honestly don't give too much thought to this crap.
It is far worse to keep it on when you're not actively looking at the moment like so many people seem to do.
Ok, but I would think if you had contacted someone, you'd at least wait a couple of days before hiding it again in hopes she might respond to you, no?
I don't always know when I'm going to take a break. I turned my profile on yesterday and have it on today, but well may have it off for the weekend and next week. I honestly don't give too much thought to this crap.
It is far worse to keep it on when you're not actively looking at the moment like so many people seem to do.
It's the tough skin part that's needed for online dating. You're nothing but a stranger to them, so what they do doesn't really inflict any consequences on them. Not much you can do on that one, but not get frustrated. Shoot, I could email and wink at every woman online if I wanted to. There's nothing stopping me from doing it, since it's still up to the woman to respond. Sure, it's annoying, but that's the online dating community. It's pretty annoying until you meet someone that you want to talk to.
I rarely contact someone, but no, it wouldn't be a factor.
A "wink" isn't a contact, just like a "like" isn't a contact in my book.
Yea that's true, and to be honest I don't respond to winks or likes myself for the most part (occasionally I might send a wink back). I just don't get the point that's all.
It's the tough skin part that's needed for online dating. You're nothing but a stranger to them, so what they do doesn't really inflict any consequences on them. Not much you can do on that one, but not get frustrated. Shoot, I could email and wink at every woman online if I wanted to. There's nothing stopping me from doing it, since it's still up to the woman to respond. Sure, it's annoying, but that's the online dating community. It's pretty annoying until you meet someone that you want to talk to.
Yea, I'm not that bothered by it because at the end of the day these are all strangers. I think the part that bothers me more is these people are meeting someone so quickly and hiding their profiles. Some of these people you see and tend to think "really, they found someone"??? yet I'm still searching, it gets pretty frustrating.
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Yea, I'm not that bothered by it because at the end of the day these are all strangers. I think the part that bothers me more is these people are meeting someone so quickly and hiding their profiles. Some of these people you see and tend to think "really, they found someone"??? yet I'm still searching, it gets pretty frustrating.
They likely are not though. Most of the time I turn my profile off while looking I'm doing it because I just don't want to deal with it for the moment. It can be very time/energy consuming to do right. Lots of the time I just don't want to deal with it for a bit and do other stuff. I wouldn't want to keep the profile on during that time (and wish others wouldn't either, honestly).
Yea, I'm not that bothered by it because at the end of the day these are all strangers. I think the part that bothers me more is these people are meeting someone so quickly and hiding their profiles. Some of these people you see and tend to think "really, they found someone"??? yet I'm still searching, it gets pretty frustrating.
Men and women do this. It's called talking to multiple people at once. I have had plenty of conversations with women to where you would think things are going great, even after a date or two, and then they'll say I have decided to get serious with someone else I'm seeing.
It had gotten to the point to where I point blank ask if they're talking to anyone else. It's not that I have a problem with them talking to other guys, I just don't want to be put into the rotation with them. It's better for me to know up front, so I don't have to deal with the frustration of being a part of someone's juggling act.
It had gotten to the point to where I point blank ask if they're talking to anyone else. It's not that I have a problem with them talking to other guys, I just don't want to be put into the rotation with them. It's better for me to know up front, so I don't have to deal with the frustration of being a part of someone's juggling act.
That makes sense, but how do you know they're being honest with you? I feel like there's lots of people, who if they're interested in you and are indeed seeing someone else as well, might deny that fact in fear of losing you in their rotation lol
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