Dating outside of your economic status (wife, marriage, women, love)

[iGlenn]

Your dating someone for 6 months and things are starting to get serious. You haven't meet their family yet or many of their friends from where they grew up. Up till this point it appears that they have a seemingly normal lifestyle much like your own and they really have no need or desire for extravagant luxuries.

You get to the point where you want to meet each others families and thats when they decide to spill the beans. They tell you that they have significant wealth ($100+ million) and haven't said anything about it before due to not trusting people they don't know very well. A small part of you doesn't believe it but you eventually do meet the family and you realize they have told you the truth.

If you found yourself in such a situation could you honestly say that you wound not think differently of them? Would your feelings be taken over by greed? Would you sign a pre-nup if they asked you to? If you were fortunate enough to have significant wealth and your SO didn't would you ask them to sign a pre-nup?

Just curious as to what peoples thoughts were on this.

Thanks.

[Anigirli]

I feel that love can be the thing to bridge and cement any differences a couple can face.

[Huckleberry3911948]

maybe i would?
marriage a legal event masquerading as a romantic event?

[Travel'r]

I'd be relieved. He won't get complacent after a while, relaxing and depending on me to be the breadwinner.
I'd become much more protective of him than I was (obvious reasons.)

It would be brain-wracking at gift-times because picking stuff to wow him would certainly be mothers of all stumpers! Have a tough enough time picking out for my family.

All for pre-nups, there are gold diggers who could get greedy, and fall for a new flame -- so Nups Away!!

[Chinolala]

I would sign a pre-nup, but would want to get some money post-divorce or a split of any income derived from the $100 million during the time that we were married. I would not expect half of my spouse's worth unless we were married a long time. Hopefully, it wouldn't end in divorce.

[Fat Freddy]

So they told you that they had $100 million.
But it's in a Nigerian bank, right?

I would hold off on any decisions for a while.

Unless of course you arrived at the ball in a pumpkin coach and lost your glass slipper.

[sad delta]

I would be offended if asked to sign a pre-nup.....but, that's just me! I don't know anyone who would enter into a marriage with an "out date" already in mind....besides, it's just as easy to fall in love with someone broke as someone rich...marriage is "buying the baby" whether you have money or not!! I've never been made to feel "this is mine and that is yours"....everything is "ours" including the financial burdens and financial gains! Again, that's just me.....

[Roaddog]

I might take it as a sign the person really likes and trusts me and want to move forward in the relationship, if i already was really into that person the money might be a bonus but wouldn't change things.
As far as a prenump, my personal opinion for myself is I wouldn't like it, it would make me feel the other person did not expect it to last, but thats just me.

[LoveBoating]

Years ago I dated a couple of ladies that were pretty much out of my "economic status". At the time, I was renting a room in a house, drove an old truck, wore jeans/boots at lot, did have a nice suit that I hardly ever wore and worked in a warehouse. Also, took my lunch to work everyday. The two ladies wore nice looking clothes, drove a nice/new car, had a nice house/furniture (the one lady got from a divorce) and both liked to eat in nice restaurants. My idea of "eating out" was going to a nice steakhouse. After two dates with each, it all ended. My decision....there was no way that I could afford either of these gals.
My wife now, is exactly in the same "economic status" that I'm in. We both love "my" cooking and have a lot of the same interests.
Look at this Thread this way:
It would not appear to me that a lady that works at a Denny's restaurant as a waitress would be married to a lawyer, doctor, company President, CEO or any high professional jobs like that. Most people DO date a person in their own "status" area.

[Rcm58]

I can't answer this in a relationship sort of way exactly, the women I married had a brother that was worth millions, I met him at a get togather a few years after we were married, her family isn't real close, anyway he was really a very nice guy and we hit it off. He offers me a job as a salesman to start and I say in so many words thanks for the offer but I didn't want to be the new guy in the family making a lot of money just because I married into it. He was cool about it and when he died " enlarged Heart " years later my wife and I were remembered. My first son is named after him. I have more now than I asked for but all I ever expected was what I could make on my own and I'm glad I went about it that way.