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According to MBTI theory, we are supposed to be most attracted to people who have opposite extroversion/introversion aspects as us, similar intuitive/sensing aspects, opposite thinking/feeling aspects, and opposite percieving/judging aspects. So say I'm an INTP, according to MBTI, I should be most attracted to ENFJs. Am I? I don't know for sure yet.
How about you and your spouse/significant other and previous relationships? Is this a reasonable assumption?
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99% of our arguments come from the J vs P dynamic. I always want to be fairly organized and have a reasonable plan in place, get places on time or even early, pay bills before the due date. He doesn't want to make any decision until the last possible second, hates being even a minute early to anything so he always wants to leave as late as possible (making us frequently late), lives completely in the moment. Oy.
We're happy as well. Im more of the feeling and remind him his actions have consequence and bring out his tender side. Hes more thinking, helps me keep feeling and reality separate.
We're both introverts and that's been wonderful. Our biggest difference is he is very idealistic and I'm very grounded and realistic. Sometimes we balance each other out and other times we get on each other's nerves over the idealistic/realistic thing. It caused more problems when we were younger. After 20+ years of marriage we've learned to handle that difference much better than we did before.
Also, my husband is more feeling than I am and I tend to be very direct to the point of blunt. Being around each other we've both learned there are times I don't need to be so direct with others and times he should be more direct with others. In that manner we have been a very good influence on each other.
There are a number of good articles out right now that say the Myers Briggs test is no better than astrology. It's hogwash.
You should like the people you like. Don't overthink it.
It isn't hogwash, but it isn't perfect. Most personality typing methods are intended to also measure serious dysfunction and illness. MBTI is primarily focused on positive personality traits and intended to help promote communication and understanding between healthy people.
My understanding is that introverts and extroverts usually do not mix well. Similar types get along better. The biggest concern is having the same communication style and whether you're an abstract or concrete thinker. So SF and ST types match, and NF and NT types match best, particularly if they are reasonably close on the introversion-extroversion scale.
I am INTJ, my wife is INFJ, and we are very well matched.
We generally get along just fine, but his being so much more extroverted than I am does cause a rift now and then... usually if he springs a social event on me without allowing me sufficient time to panic over it. He is also a very black-and-white thinker, which leads to some interesting philosophical and moral debates, because he has a very hard time seeing the shades of gray.
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