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My girlfriend lives 30 miles away or around that. Usually 3-4 nights I'll come over and stay since my work is actually closer to her place. (She doesn't mind, it's not like I just intrude)
ANyway I have realized every week she always asks what nights I'm staying. I questioned hwy she wants to know and her reason was that she wanted to know what night she would be free to have plans with her friends
I don't really know if i should be trusting that thought process so Im starting to wonder if I should look into it?
My girlfriend lives 30 miles away or around that. Usually 3-4 nights I'll come over and stay since my work is actually closer to her place. (She doesn't mind, it's not like I just intrude)
ANyway I have realized every week she always asks what nights I'm staying. I questioned hwy she wants to know and her reason was that she wanted to know what night she would be free to have plans with her friends
I don't really know if i should be trusting that thought process so Im starting to wonder if I should look into it?
Or is she right in asking?
Do you not want her to see your friends? I'd want to know when my boyfriend was coming over, too. I wouldn't want him to show up while I'm out with my friends.
Look at it this way. If your girlfriend was driving to your house and sleeping over three or four nights a week wouldn't you want to know what nights she is sleeping over?
What if you made plans to work late Tuesday night, go out with your buddies on Wednesday night and have dinner and go to the movies with your brother on Friday night and then you discover that your GF planned to sleep over Tues, Wed. & Fri and you won't even be home.
I would want to know what nights my BF was staying over too, people that have a life usually plan things.
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My girlfriend lives 30 miles away or around that. Usually 3-4 nights I'll come over and stay since my work is actually closer to her place. (She doesn't mind, it's not like I just intrude)
Anyway I have realized every week she always asks what nights I'm staying. I questioned why she wants to know and her reason was that she wanted to know what night she would be free to have plans with her friends
I don't really know if i should be trusting that thought process so I'm starting to wonder if I should look into it?
Or is she right in asking?
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Regarding the bolded part in pink...
So exactly what do you plan to do regarding your looking into it?
Exactly what do you think she is doing when you are not around?
You spend 3 to 4 nights a week at her place. So that leaves 3 to 4 days for her to spend time with her friends. Do you only want her to spend time with you and not with anyone else? What else is she supposed to do when the two of you are not spending time alone together?
Do you go out alone with your friends whenever the two of you are not spending time alone together?
My girlfriend lives 30 miles away or around that. Usually 3-4 nights I'll come over and stay since my work is actually closer to her place. (She doesn't mind, it's not like I just intrude)
ANyway I have realized every week she always asks what nights I'm staying. I questioned hwy she wants to know and her reason was that she wanted to know what night she would be free to have plans with her friends
I don't really know if i should be trusting that thought process so Im starting to wonder if I should look into it?
Or is she right in asking?
its a common courtesy to let her know what nights you will be staying with her. plans have to be made, such as adding some food to the fridge and pantry so she is prepared to handle meals.
and she has friends that she probably wants to see on a regular basis, so she needs to know when you wont be there so she can go out with her friends.
in the end it is downright rude to just show up at her place expecting to stay the night, or the weekend, or whatever. what if she has family in from out of town? or friends from out of town?
If she doesn't know when you are coming over she can't have a shlump night. You know, look like a mess, wear sweats, eat Haagen Dazs, and binge watch something on Netflix.
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My girlfriend lives 30 miles away or around that. Usually 3-4 nights I'll come over and stay since my work is actually closer to her place. (She doesn't mind, it's not like I just intrude)
ANyway I have realized every week she always asks what nights I'm staying. I questioned hwy she wants to know and her reason was that she wanted to know what night she would be free to have plans with her friends
I don't really know if i should be trusting that thought process so Im starting to wonder if I should look into it?
Or is she right in asking?
Why is everyone so suspicious of every little thing, these days? If you don't trust her, or can't trust her because you, personally, have trust issues, do her a favor and move on. She deserves someone who doesn't pick apart every little thing, looking for ulterior motives.
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