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But my simple answer. No. I think whomever asked for the date is the one who should be prepared to pay, unless their date tells them when the time comes that they'll be paying their own way.
And if someone is not prepared to pay, and they ask for the date, then they should make clear in the invite that it's a dutch affair. That way, should the other person not be cool with it, both people can move on immediately and nobody's time is wasted.
Absolutely not. Whomever does the asking should pay, although it is polite for the other person to at least offer to leave a tip or something. Before someone chimes on with the requisite "yeah but, but the guy is usually the one who does the asking, derp derp", I'm one of those aggressive types who has no hangups about asking dudes out.
Basically the overall answer to these threads is whoever asks, pays. But since it's always the man doing all the asking, the man is always paying, and women don't like hearing that and men hate it and both argue.
A relationship isn't going to happen until someone does the asking though, so it's always in the man's corner since he has to be the one to have the bigger ego, because it hurts the woman's ego far too much to get rejected.
I'm pretty traditional; I think the guy oughta pay. But, given that it's 2015, if you're a woman and don't think it's customary to pay every once in awhile, I think you're taking advantage a little. I don't have a problem paying if I'm the one making the offer and/or we're getting to know each other, and I'm not necessarily saving receipts, but if we're seeing one another and every date I've paid, I notice. I probably wont be like "hey woman, you need to pick up the tab!", but eventually I will stop offering.
Basically the overall answer to these threads is whoever asks, pays. But since it's always the man doing all the asking, the man is always paying, and women don't like hearing that and men hate it and both argue.
A relationship isn't going to happen until someone does the asking though, so it's always in the man's corner since he has to be the one to have the bigger ego, because it hurts the woman's ego far too much to get rejected.
You'd never know that from the way so many guys are afraid to even talk to women, let alone ask them out, around here. In my observation, women take rejection much more easily. But, whatever. I suppose if a woman thought she was really attractive, she'd have a hard time with rejection. But that's not most women.
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Basically the overall answer to these threads is whoever asks, pays. But since it's always the man doing all the asking, the man is always paying, and women don't like hearing that and men hate it and both argue.
A relationship isn't going to happen until someone does the asking though, so it's always in the man's corner since he has to be the one to have the bigger ego, because it hurts the woman's ego far too much to get rejected.
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