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Try this novel idea, responsible drinking. Don't get sh*t faced and expect nothing bad to happen. You know the old saying, instant a**hole just add alcohol. You were as much to blame as he was. You knew he couldn't handle booze yet you both go out and get blistered and wonder why he behaved the way he did.
I have to disagree with most of the responses here.
You have this drunken woman grinding on your husband's private parts and basically propositioning him while he is bouncing her up and down.....all in front of you?
What's he doing when not in your presence?
I'd be upset as well.
And the responses saying you are the one with the problem? Wow!
I think you will be in the minority here. Do you expect him to make some big scene? Smack the lady off of him? Throw her on the ground? I did not get from the OP's post that he was a real active participant
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Originally Posted by rosebyanothername
I have to disagree with most of the responses here.
You have this drunken woman grinding on your husband's private parts and basically propositioning him while he is bouncing her up and down.....all in front of you?
What's he doing when not in your presence?
I'd be upset as well.
And the responses saying you are the one with the problem? Wow!
Getting mad at the chick sitting on his lap I get. That is where the anger should be focused.
He did nothing wrong and handled it as good as could be expected.
Personally I'd knock a b-tch out, but that's just me.. The moment's passed tho and you missed your chance. * Waiting for it to happen again is the wrong move. If they/she didn't even know you 2 were a couple, they aren't worth getting to know better, I say.. Leave the party freaks alone.
your beef is with the woman, not your husband. I don't know what you expected him to do, but I'm pretty sure throwing her off him or smacking her or something isn't the way to go.
It was a lapdance and she was propositioning herself to him. You should have been the one to remove her and establish that you're married to him.
He was drunk and doesn't do well under the influence, and you say you can and do, so I think you should have tried to do a little more. Just stop beating up your husband and being distant, and stop hanging around that other woman.
Okay, so over the weekend, the husband and I, along with a few friends, all went out and got drunk. We went to a bar with just the two of us and our DD (younger male friend we've known for years), then to another bar to meet two friends, then to their house...(straight female and gay male roommate)
My husband doesn't drink too often, so he's not all that good at it.
When we went to the two friends' house (the gay guy is a semi- good friend, the other is a woman who is twice my age and who we have met at least a half dozen times but who we do not hang out with or know really. I actually went to school with her daughter, although she was younger than me and that's not really relevant here haha)
Anyway, we were all hanging out, and the drunk woman got REALLY drunk. SO drunk, in fact, that she sat her ass down on my husband's lap, started GRINDING on his you-know-what, and grabbed his hands and put them on her *******.
He started bouncing her up and down on his lap, but he held his hands toward me while she was grabbing them, so he wasn't really touching her *******. She was trying to rub his hands there, but I guess she was rubbing the BACK of his hands rather than his palms because of the way he was holding them. Anyway, in his defense, he did make eye contact with me the whole time -- I was literally sitting RIGHT across from them.
She then "whispered" -- loud enough that I could clearly hear her from where I was sitting -- and asked him "if he had a wife." Ummm, duh? I started saying really loudly, "Uh, yeah, he has a ****ING wife, who is RIGHT HERE!!!" She ignored me and kept trying to whisper...
I'm sorry to be a prude or whatever anyone wants to call me, but I was PISSED. Like, extremely. I got up, said I was going to the bathroom and said that she BETTER be off of my husband's lap before I get back...she's like this tiny underweight alcoholic who is half my size, and I wanted to throw her off of her own deck and beat the crap out of her, but I try to be classy...
Anyway, while I'm in the bathroom, my husband came in with this goofy smile on his face telling me that it was all innocent and that I shouldn't be mad and blah blah blah...
I said..."I WANT TO GO HOME RIGHT NOW, RIGHT THE **** NOW, NOW!!!!!"
Well, he seems to not understand why I was so upset, and he still doesn't. I have tried so hard, but I CANNOT get the image out of my mind of him bouncing that woman on his lap while she's doing all of that. In my opinion, he should have told her to GET THE **** OFF OF HIM, but he didn't. He acts like I'm mad about nothing. It's been almost 4 days, and I still feel distant from my husband and I still feel upset. I just don't think this behavior was OK and am still mad at him for not getting her off of him.
Her roommate also happened to call tonight and ask if we wanted to come hang out???!!!?? I told him that I have ZERO interest in going back over there, and he acted confused?
Is it that strange that I'm upset that some drunk ***** tried to basically **** my husband right in front of me???????
Would y'all be pissed?
I would have been across the room and had her bouncing off her carpet in two seconds flat, and I would have jerked my husband to his feet and gotten the DD and left. Your husband acting like it was funny was trying to de-escalate the situation, but for him to still not get that you didn't like another woman bouncing on his lap is beyond idiotic.
That said, I think you might need to stop drinking to get drunk, though; that didn't help matters.
Op, have you discussed the incident with you husband? I know it can feel good to vent here at times, but have you expressed how truly angry you are about his response toward this drunk woman? You can be upset, but you two should really resolve this conflict before it festers even more. Don't let it linger!
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