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People will claim it's personality but in truth looks always come first. If you don't have the looks, you could have the most awesome personality in the world, but it won't matter one iota.
Yeah, I'm not going to pretend that personality reigned supreme when I was in the dating scene. I met and went out with men who were great in many ways, likely compatible in many respects, but I was not physically attracted to them. So it didn't go any further.
For me, compatibility in all respects needs to be there, and this includes attraction. He needn't be one of the Hemsworth brothers or Chris Evans, but I need to find him attractive. I have dated men who I thought were sexy/attractive, but others may see as average-looking.
And a good chunk of people use filters. Many filter out "race," height and body type. I definitely used them. When a lot of men go on a spiel about wanting a "fit woman" or "HWP" ... you know they're filtering out "curvy" and "BBW" women. Jibbers, that much is known here.
For men, I would say it is 55% looks and 45% personality. Looks are more important at the beginning but personality becomes more important as the relationship evolves. So both personality and looks are important. There is no good answer to this poll.
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And a good chunk of people use filters. Many filter out "race," height and body type. I definitely used them. When a lot of men go on a spiel about wanting a "fit woman" or "HWP" ... you know they're filtering out "curvy" and "BBW" women. Jibbers, that much is known here.
They are doing themselves a massive disservice, since people self select on these body types. The last person I went out with from OKC put down curvy, but she is downright thin with C+ cups, so she put curvy.
I just don't see the point of using such filters, personally. I certainly amount not going to give a crud about the amount of pigment ins someone's skin; that makes no sense to me. Meh.
No one will be interested enough to know your personality if you dont look desireable enough to attract them in the first place. And lets face it, its not very rare nor difficult to be sweet, kind and interesting to someone.
Looks capture. No one cares about your personality unless your looks capture their interest as well.
Yep. Just went through this. I was kind, interesting, and sweet, but at the end of the day she wasn't sexually attracted to me. She even tried for the things I listed, but she couldn't overcome the desirable part.
I was bummed, and still am a little bit, but it's no harm and no foul.
Yeah, I'm not going to pretend that personality reigned supreme when I was in the dating scene. I met and went out with men who were great in many ways, likely compatible in many respects, but I was not physically attracted to them. So it didn't go any further.
For me, compatibility in all respects needs to be there, and this includes attraction. He needn't be one of the Hemsworth brothers or Chris Evans, but I need to find him attractive. I have dated men who I thought were sexy/attractive, but others may see as average-looking.
And a good chunk of people use filters. Many filter out "race," height and body type. I definitely used them. When a lot of men go on a spiel about wanting a "fit woman" or "HWP" ... you know they're filtering out "curvy" and "BBW" women. Jibbers, that much is known here.
Very true. On the other hand quite often if you have the looks your personality, good or bad, is overlooked.
I'll take a sweet personality and a 'so-so' body any day of the week, over a sweet body and a 'so-so' personality. I rockin' body will eventually fade, bet that!
I'll take a sweet personality and a 'so-so' body any day of the week, over a sweet body and a 'so-so' personality. I rockin' body will eventually fade, bet that!
Ok, but what about a sweet personality and a horrible body?
We all say "personality" to make ourselves seem better, but we all know its looks. Looks are one of two reasons that have kept me out of relationships for thirty years.
It's not my fault that I'm better looking than most women.........
The poll didn't say which one is the ONLY important thing - it said MOST important. Just because you think a personality is the most important it doesn't mean that you don't need to be attracted to the person. Personally, a good personality can make a person more attractive to me whereas a pretty face can't make a so-so personality better for me.
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