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Old 06-21-2015, 09:06 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Okay, they're open.

Where do I look?
Look for signs of women being single.

The way they have a conversation.
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Old 06-21-2015, 11:47 PM
 
Location: Kirkland, WA (Metro Seattle)
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Uh, no.

Made it through a chorus of "Me Too's" on P1, and a "Hell yes, who doesn't?" on Page 2. On to P3...and on it goes. Enough.

So, to OP: I'm 47, hetero, great income, presentable, sociable when it suits my purposes, ambitious, and by any monetary and emotional measurement successful and well-adjusted. Thus, never had real trouble finding partners, when I wanted to. To that end, maybe more trouble than some, but less than others.

...And I'd sooner be coated with sugar dough and dropped in a donut vat than "get married" or have any woman around for longer than a few weeks at one stretch anymore, last three years or so at least. There is nothing to share; my adventures (experiences) are for me, not dealing with someone else's BS. I see and do enough for ten men, one end of the county, state, country, continent, and (when feasible) world to the other. Bound by budget and vacation time, of course, these being peak earning years and no. 1 priority is keeping the ball rolling and saving to retire quite well indeed.

Few, if-any, women I've ever met can keep up or want to. Not too many months from now I'll be riding a BMW motorcycle through southwest Africa for a week shy of a month: number of takers, male or female, other than me = zero. So, it's up to me and a few pals collected from world-over, nine months in the making. As-usual. Women & people in-general: always some excuse for not putting oneself out there, really finding what life is all about and experiencing vs. puling about "money problems" or "the (brat) needs this or that" instead.

Nuh uh. Not how I choose to live.

Too, there is negative expected value to that decision (couplehood) once you've got a LOT to lose. That has been an ongoing and frank risk-analysis for a long, long time in my world and I'm more than comfortable with the outcomes. Huge difference between "alone" and "lonely," which some seem to understand but others do not. Those who do, understand what "loner" really means: we're a unique tribe.
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Old 06-22-2015, 06:24 PM
 
Location: The analog world
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Uh, no.

Made it through a chorus of "Me Too's" on P1, and a "Hell yes, who doesn't?" on Page 2. On to P3...and on it goes. Enough.

So, to OP: I'm 47, hetero, great income, presentable, sociable when it suits my purposes, ambitious, and by any monetary and emotional measurement successful and well-adjusted. Thus, never had real trouble finding partners, when I wanted to. To that end, maybe more trouble than some, but less than others.

...And I'd sooner be coated with sugar dough and dropped in a donut vat than "get married" or have any woman around for longer than a few weeks at one stretch anymore, last three years or so at least. There is nothing to share; my adventures (experiences) are for me, not dealing with someone else's BS. I see and do enough for ten men, one end of the county, state, country, continent, and (when feasible) world to the other. Bound by budget and vacation time, of course, these being peak earning years and no. 1 priority is keeping the ball rolling and saving to retire quite well indeed.

Few, if-any, women I've ever met can keep up or want to. Not too many months from now I'll be riding a BMW motorcycle through southwest Africa for a week shy of a month: number of takers, male or female, other than me = zero. So, it's up to me and a few pals collected from world-over, nine months in the making. As-usual. Women & people in-general: always some excuse for not putting oneself out there, really finding what life is all about and experiencing vs. puling about "money problems" or "the (brat) needs this or that" instead.

Nuh uh. Not how I choose to live.

Too, there is negative expected value to that decision (couplehood) once you've got a LOT to lose. That has been an ongoing and frank risk-analysis for a long, long time in my world and I'm more than comfortable with the outcomes. Huge difference between "alone" and "lonely," which some seem to understand but others do not. Those who do, understand what "loner" really means: we're a unique tribe.
Uh, okay. I do hope you feel better having gotten that off your chest.
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Old 06-22-2015, 06:57 PM
 
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Uh, no.

Made it through a chorus of "Me Too's" on P1, and a "Hell yes, who doesn't?" on Page 2. On to P3...and on it goes. Enough.

So, to OP: I'm 47, hetero, great income, presentable, sociable when it suits my purposes, ambitious, and by any monetary and emotional measurement successful and well-adjusted. Thus, never had real trouble finding partners, when I wanted to. To that end, maybe more trouble than some, but less than others.

...And I'd sooner be coated with sugar dough and dropped in a donut vat than "get married" or have any woman around for longer than a few weeks at one stretch anymore, last three years or so at least. There is nothing to share; my adventures (experiences) are for me, not dealing with someone else's BS. I see and do enough for ten men, one end of the county, state, country, continent, and (when feasible) world to the other. Bound by budget and vacation time, of course, these being peak earning years and no. 1 priority is keeping the ball rolling and saving to retire quite well indeed.

Few, if-any, women I've ever met can keep up or want to. Not too many months from now I'll be riding a BMW motorcycle through southwest Africa for a week shy of a month: number of takers, male or female, other than me = zero. So, it's up to me and a few pals collected from world-over, nine months in the making. As-usual. Women & people in-general: always some excuse for not putting oneself out there, really finding what life is all about and experiencing vs. puling about "money problems" or "the (brat) needs this or that" instead.

Nuh uh. Not how I choose to live.

Too, there is negative expected value to that decision (couplehood) once you've got a LOT to lose. That has been an ongoing and frank risk-analysis for a long, long time in my world and I'm more than comfortable with the outcomes. Huge difference between "alone" and "lonely," which some seem to understand but others do not. Those who do, understand what "loner" really means: we're a unique tribe.

Hmmm... Some use others as their excuse for not to venture the world, then again ones dreams might not be yours or mine, been married 34 years not once have I ever kept or told my husbands he can't live his dreams , nor will I .So not everyone closed off to their spouses living or doing something outside of them, in fact I encourage it, I have my own dreams as well....
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Old 06-22-2015, 08:37 PM
 
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Look for signs of women being single.

The way they have a conversation.
Which is what, exactly?
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Old 06-22-2015, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Nashville, TN -
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Uh, no.

Made it through a chorus of "Me Too's" on P1, and a "Hell yes, who doesn't?" on Page 2. On to P3...and on it goes. Enough.

So, to OP: I'm 47, hetero, great income, presentable, sociable when it suits my purposes, ambitious, and by any monetary and emotional measurement successful and well-adjusted. Thus, never had real trouble finding partners, when I wanted to. To that end, maybe more trouble than some, but less than others.

...And I'd sooner be coated with sugar dough and dropped in a donut vat than "get married" or have any woman around for longer than a few weeks at one stretch anymore, last three years or so at least. There is nothing to share; my adventures (experiences) are for me, not dealing with someone else's BS. I see and do enough for ten men, one end of the county, state, country, continent, and (when feasible) world to the other. Bound by budget and vacation time, of course, these being peak earning years and no. 1 priority is keeping the ball rolling and saving to retire quite well indeed.

Few, if-any, women I've ever met can keep up or want to. Not too many months from now I'll be riding a BMW motorcycle through southwest Africa for a week shy of a month: number of takers, male or female, other than me = zero. So, it's up to me and a few pals collected from world-over, nine months in the making. As-usual. Women & people in-general: always some excuse for not putting oneself out there, really finding what life is all about and experiencing vs. puling about "money problems" or "the (brat) needs this or that" instead.

Nuh uh. Not how I choose to live.

Too, there is negative expected value to that decision (couplehood) once you've got a LOT to lose. That has been an ongoing and frank risk-analysis for a long, long time in my world and I'm more than comfortable with the outcomes. Huge difference between "alone" and "lonely," which some seem to understand but others do not. Those who do, understand what "loner" really means: we're a unique tribe.
I give you credit for knowing yourself well enough to know that you prefer to be alone, and that you accept the possible downsides to a life alone, as well as the many advantages.

Lots of people - I'd say more than half of them men - want the public "respectability," cozy-wozyness, validation, domestic benefits, and regular sex of a LTR, but they carry on their lives as single men in many respects. They forget that they're part of a partnership that requires communication, compromise, EMOTIONAL as well as sexual intimacy, and at least some shared experiences in order to thrive.

My ex-husband is a loner (and a narcissist), and he never should have gotten married/entered a LTR. I hope he now realizes that, and makes a conscious choice to not subject any other women to the extreme loneliness that a life with him offers. For men like my ex to choose to be in long term relationships is tantamount to benign neglect at best, and calculated cruelty at worst.

Hopefully, you're honest and upfront with your "partners" from the beginning as to what they can expect from you (when you want them around, that is) to save either of you frustration and resentment. I can't understand why any LTR - MINDED woman would agree to your terms if you ARE candid, but perhaps a temporary thing with you suits them just fine.
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Old 06-23-2015, 12:14 AM
 
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I wouldn't know. I'm too far inland to see any real beaches.
I couldn't imagine not being near water.

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Uh, no.

Made it through a chorus of "Me Too's" on P1, and a "Hell yes, who doesn't?" on Page 2. On to P3...and on it goes. Enough.

So, to OP: I'm 47, hetero, great income, presentable, sociable when it suits my purposes, ambitious, and by any monetary and emotional measurement successful and well-adjusted. Thus, never had real trouble finding partners, when I wanted to. To that end, maybe more trouble than some, but less than others.

...And I'd sooner be coated with sugar dough and dropped in a donut vat than "get married" or have any woman around for longer than a few weeks at one stretch anymore, last three years or so at least. There is nothing to share; my adventures (experiences) are for me, not dealing with someone else's BS. I see and do enough for ten men, one end of the county, state, country, continent, and (when feasible) world to the other. Bound by budget and vacation time, of course, these being peak earning years and no. 1 priority is keeping the ball rolling and saving to retire quite well indeed.

Few, if-any, women I've ever met can keep up or want to. Not too many months from now I'll be riding a BMW motorcycle through southwest Africa for a week shy of a month: number of takers, male or female, other than me = zero. So, it's up to me and a few pals collected from world-over, nine months in the making. As-usual. Women & people in-general: always some excuse for not putting oneself out there, really finding what life is all about and experiencing vs. puling about "money problems" or "the (brat) needs this or that" instead.

Nuh uh. Not how I choose to live.


Too, there is negative expected value to that decision (couplehood) once you've got a LOT to lose. That has been an ongoing and frank risk-analysis for a long, long time in my world and I'm more than comfortable with the outcomes. Huge difference between "alone" and "lonely," which some seem to understand but others do not. Those who do, understand what "loner" really means: we're a unique tribe.
Okay.. but .. for some, that is what life is all about, and having children (brat? ) is how they choose to live. And there is nothing wrong with that.
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