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She hasn't, at least not in this thread. But people have asked what her preferences are and she has not responded. Her failure to respond combined with the fact that she is attractive and not overweight (based upon her profile picture), and that she mentioned in the OP that she lives near a prestigious law school (she is 31), leads me to believe her preferences are the issue. And, I am sorry if this does not apply to the OP, but it is a theme that I have observed on this forum, that AA people that post in this forum about their difficulties finding a mate/date will not mention that they are primarily looking for an interracial relationship until it is pulled out of them on page 10.
I don't think the OP should solely focus on dating black men, because professional black men in DC certainly do not exclusively date black women.
I don't think the OP should solely focus on dating black men, because professional black men in DC certainly do not exclusively date black women.
OP has not stated a preference for professional men (or any preference for that matter), but you are probably correct, she is probably only looking for professional men based upon where she frequents. But it isn't like the OP has some prestigious degree or job herself, I don't see why she should have an expectation that she would pair up with some professional man, black or otherwise.
This thread will most likely get shutdown if race keeps being discussed, as far as I know the OP didn't mention her dating woos to be race related, not sure why that is getting thrown around.
She's an attractive looking woman, so I don't think it's looks being the issue here.
I'm not doubting that some may indeed carry around a few heavy chips, but my question to you is, why do you think a number of black women have those chips? Here's a hint, it's due to the treatment that many black women experience.
If you think that playing the victim card on behalf of these chip-on-the-shoulder types is somehow going to pressure men into wanting to date them, I believe you are mistaken. What you seem to be suggesting is that men overlook this very unattractive and off-putting characteristic because it is politically incorrect to consider it or be offended by it. In fact, this almost seems almost like a voluntary affirmative action dating proposal that you are suggesting.
If you think that playing the victim card on behalf of these chip-on-the-shoulder types is somehow going to pressure men into wanting to date them, I believe you are mistaken. What you seem to be suggesting is that men overlook this very unattractive and off-putting characteristic because it is politically incorrect to consider it or be offended by it. In fact, this almost seems almost like a voluntary affirmative action dating proposal that you are suggesting.
Good luck with that.
It's not about playing the "victim card," it's about acknowledging reality. If you actually took the time to read my words, you'd understand my overall point. A lot of black women are treated like crap in the U.S. and yet still expected to walk around smiling, happy and friendly each and every day.
If white and Asian women had to put up with half of the B.S. and stereotypes that black American women have to deal with on a regular basis, I guarantee that most wouldn't be smiling or laughing.
When an attractive black woman travels outside of America, she suddenly starts to smile and laugh because the environment is no longer filled with prejudicial stereotypes and bigotry. She is treated like a woman and no longer has to constantly defend herself or try to prove her self worth on a regular basis. The same attractive/intelligent black woman that is relatively ignored in the States, suddenly becomes the belle of the ball and is hit on routinely by all different types of men.
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This thread will most likely get shutdown if race keeps being discussed, as far as I know the OP didn't mention her dating woos to be race related, not sure why that is getting thrown around.
She's an attractive looking woman, so I don't think it's looks being the issue here.
I give this thread until 7pm, when the festival I'm going to really turns up.
OPs dating problem has little to do with race. I work with a whole mess of black women who are my clients in the DC area. A lot of them are getting married recently, mostly to black men but all races are represented. Race isn't the OPs main problem at all. I'd say timing is a more likely problem.
I give this thread until 7pm, when the festival I'm going to really turns up.
OPs dating problem has little to do with race. I work with a whole mess of black women who are my clients in the DC area.
As a black woman who has lived in D.C., I can state with certainty that race is most certainly the reason why the OP is having difficulties dating. People want her to believe that she is doing something wrong, "not smiling, not going to the right places, not free-spirited enough, yada yada yada," but the truth is, there's nothing wrong with the OP. She is not the problem, the problem is her environment, and the overall stereotypes that are ingrained throughout America concerning black women.
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A lot of them are getting married recently, mostly to black men but all races are represented. Race isn't the OPs main problem at all. I'd say timing is a more likely problem.
Based on the national stats, black women are far less likely to marry, than other races of women in the U.S. Perhaps in your social circle, 3, 4, 5 or so black women have found their significant others, but this is hardly the case for most black women in the D.C. metro area.
This thread will most likely get shutdown if race keeps being discussed, as far as I know the OP didn't mention her dating woos to be race related, not sure why that is getting thrown around.
She's an attractive looking woman, so I don't think it's looks being the issue here.
The OP asked a very legitimate question. I find it interesting that people want to focus on what the OP is doing "wrong," instead of just being honest and admitting the truth.
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