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Women who have nice assets and clearly know it (dressing to show off) won't mind if you briefly look. That's fine and most men do it, even a lot of other women. A tactful glance is expected and no one is going to get mad at you for briefly checking out a hot girl. I work in a casino and there are a *lot* of hot people walking around, and *everybody* looks at everyone else.
However, staring at a woman you don't know for an uncomfortably long time, or straight up commenting on her legs/boobs/butt is dense to say the least. Some guys are so obvious about it and I can tell you, nobody thinks a pervert is cool. Just take a quick look, smile to yourself and carry on.
This thread should have been a poll. Because I'm pretty sure there are some people on here who are just as surprised as I am at how many people are saying it's wrong to simply compliment a woman's thighs.
If women don't want to be respectfully complimented, then why don't they wear sneakers, corteroids, and a sweatshirt wherever they go?
If I have to restrain myself from punching stupid people in the face day in and day out, then you can restrain yourself from drooling over women in shorts.
Speaking as a male: I am not one who feels a compulsion, as a way-of-life, to willfully compliment women's appearances just for the sake of complimenting her or as a flirtatious move or a sexual come-on. But there have been times in life when I've seen a woman with a beautiful dress or lovely hair (for instance) and I've said something like "I love your hair" or "I really like your hair" followed by "It's so smooth and silky" or "It's got nice body to it" or "I like its color and body" or "It's very becoming on you" and they've ALL taken it very well (smiling and saying "Thank you!" or even chatting a bit) and we then parted company. And they weren't even all the most beautiful women overall (e.g., some were quite weighty, some were rather elderly, et al . . . and then others were quite attractive overall or even very beautiful). The comment(s) with each one of them were not meant as a ploy by myself to "pick her up" but were spontaneous and just meant (and apparently taken as such by them) as a purely esthetic statement on my part . . . not as a come-on of any type. Just like similarly, I've seen men with nice suits and I've said "Hey, nice suit. Looks classy" and/or "I like they way it coordinates with the rest of your clothes" and they took it well and said "Thank you!" or even chatted a bit and then we parted company. None of these statements made to females or males were meant as a come-on of any type (and, being heterosexual, I'm not inclined to flirt or come on to to males anyway). They were all just passing events and we each moved on with our lives after our brief interaction. No muss, no fuss, no harm meant or done or perceived by them.
Just like if you see someone with a cute or adorable dog, you might comment "How adorable!" or whatever other words to convey your joy and pleasure at the sight of such a cute or adorable animal.
Speaking as a male: I am not one who feels a compulsion, as a way-of-life, to willfully compliment women's appearances just for the sake of complimenting her or as a flirtatious move or a sexual come-on. But there have been times in life when I've seen a woman with a beautiful dress or lovely hair (for instance) and I've said something like "I love your hair" or "I really like your hair" followed by "It's so smooth and silky" or "It's got nice body to it" or "I like its color and body" or "It's very becoming on you" and they've ALL taken it very well (smiling and saying "Thank you!" or even chatting a bit) and we then parted company. And they weren't even all the most beautiful women overall (e.g., some were quite weighty, some were rather elderly, et al . . . and then others were quite attractive overall or even very beautiful). The comment(s) with each one of them were not meant as a ploy by myself to "pick her up" but were spontaneous and just meant (and apparently taken as such by them) as a purely esthetic statement on my part . . . not as a come-on of any type. Just like similarly, I've seen men with nice suits and I've said "Hey, nice suit. Looks classy" and/or "I like they way it coordinates with the rest of your clothes" and they took it well and said "Thank you!" or even chatted a bit and then we parted company. None of these statements made to females or males was meant as a come-on of any type (and, being heterosexual, I'm not inclined to flirt or come on to to males anyway). They were all just passing events and we each moved on with our lives after our brief interaction. No muss, no fuss, no harm meant or done or perceived by them.
Just like if you see someone with a cute or adorable dog, you might comment "How adorable!" or whatever other words to convey your joy and pleasure at the sight of such a cute or adorable animal.
That makes sense, but none of those compliments indicate you admire, and hence have been staring at, a person's crotch.
Unfortunately yeah. We live in a world where women take complents as insults. Just don't do it.
I can't imagine a woman in a country south of the U.S. not taking a comment such a "nice legs" as a compliment. Maybe it is a U.S. thing to find it insulting or creepy
Surprised at some of the answers here. As far as I'm concerned boobs and butt are the only things off-limits to compliment if I don't know the guy. Short stares are fine, longer stares where I'm being seen as a piece of meat, are not.
I can't imagine a woman in a country south of the U.S. not taking a comment such a "nice legs" as a compliment. Maybe it is a U.S. thing to find it insulting or creepy
Speaking as a male: I am not one who feels a compulsion, as a way-of-life, to willfully compliment women's appearances just for the sake of complimenting her or as a flirtatious move or a sexual come-on. But there have been times in life when I've seen a woman with a beautiful dress or lovely hair (for instance) and I've said something like "I love your hair" or "I really like your hair" followed by "It's so smooth and silky" or "It's got nice body to it" or "I like its color and body" or "It's very becoming on you" and they've ALL taken it very well (smiling and saying "Thank you!" or even chatting a bit) and we then parted company. And they weren't even all the most beautiful women overall (e.g., some were quite weighty, some were rather elderly, et al . . . and then others were quite attractive overall or even very beautiful). The comment(s) with each one of them were not meant as a ploy by myself to "pick her up" but were spontaneous and just meant (and apparently taken as such by them) as a purely esthetic statement on my part . . . not as a come-on of any type. Just like similarly, I've seen men with nice suits and I've said "Hey, nice suit. Looks classy" and/or "I like they way it coordinates with the rest of your clothes" and they took it well and said "Thank you!" or even chatted a bit and then we parted company. None of these statements made to females or males was meant as a come-on of any type (and, being heterosexual, I'm not inclined to flirt or come on to to males anyway). They were all just passing events and we each moved on with our lives after our brief interaction. No muss, no fuss, no harm meant or done or perceived by them.
Just like if you see someone with a cute or adorable dog, you might comment "How adorable!" or whatever other words to convey your joy and pleasure at the sight of such a cute or adorable animal.
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
That makes sense, but none of those compliments indicate you admire, and hence have been staring at, a person's crotch.
Well, I guess I've got too much class for that other kind of approach (re: conveying to a woman that I'm oogling her legs and lower torso and salivating over them). I wonder what is in the mind of a man who feels inclined to tell a woman he doesn't know that she has nice legs just "out-of-the-blue"? How does he expect her to respond or take it? Does he feel that she is obligated to then let him escalate it and that she owes it to him to let him savor her entire naked body in-person because he finds her legs so appealing? I would hope that I understand the female half of our species better than that. If not, I'm in serious trouble. In the end, to each their own (i.e., all men and women can use their own chosen approaches). I prefer for myself to be "classier" about it and take a somewhat slower and measured approach . . . giving any woman more reason or basis for considering me than just the fact that I oogle and lust over her body.
I can't imagine a woman in a country south of the U.S. not taking a comment such a "nice legs" as a compliment. Maybe it is a U.S. thing to find it insulting or creepy
Yeah, ive gotten dirty looks for keeping doors open for some women. One lady actually said, "I can Hold my own f....ing door". lol. Thing they dont know, i hold doors open for anyone because thats what I was taught. Some people are rather difficult to please.
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