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Old 07-06-2015, 10:07 PM
 
Location: NY metro area
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Well. Not exactly. Some of these women just crave attention like a drug addict. My brother in law uses online dating and he says the pretty women just want validation.
What about the average and ugly ones? We need validation too!
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Old 07-06-2015, 10:56 PM
 
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This is good advice for women, but not men. Women have a huge selection of men online. As long as they are not ridiculously picky, they will have tons of options and can easily have a boyfriend within a few days. In fact, I don't know why women don't exclusively date online. It's like a catalog for them.

Men, on the other hand, need to put in the leg work in real life and will likely not have success online.

Most women seem to not understand this for whatever reason.
Exactly. One of the reasons I'm tentative about trying online dating is because I'm short and know that almost all women filter short guys out of their search, or if they don't, will be disappointed by my height when they meet me. In real life I don't have that problem because if a woman seems receptive to me then I know she thinks I'm cute and isn't completely turned off by my being 5'7". I would've never met these women online.

See, real life date hunting is more efficient for unattractive people because you get the hard part, the mutual physical attraction, out of the way first. The hard part for attractive people is finding personality matches and so online dating makes more senses for them.
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Old 07-06-2015, 11:19 PM
 
Location: H-town, TX.
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I hate the sigma towards OLD.Not everyone on there is crazy or ugly.
You may hate it, but you can thank your fellow women for it still existing. "We'll lie about how we met!"

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Lie about what, exactly?
Women love to fib about the (not having) kids and their age. Thankfully, people are creatures of habit and their OLD alias can usually be traced to their FB and their pics of their kid(s) and their birthdate/year. That usually comes under the guise of "I entered the wrong year when registering" when it's women nearing 40 hanging onto a thread and trying to live a little longer with the sub-30 crowd.

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This is good advice for women, but not men. Women have a huge selection of men online. As long as they are not ridiculously picky, they will have tons of options and can easily have a boyfriend within a few days. In fact, I don't know why women don't exclusively date online. It's like a catalog for them.

Men, on the other hand, need to put in the leg work in real life and will likely not have success online.

Most women seem to not understand this for whatever reason.
Right! About the only way you can lose as a woman online is by coming across as a dude showing off your muscles too much or something else silly like this combination:

Intent _________ wants to find someone to marry.
Do you want children? Does not want children



No guy is going to marry a chick too often who doesn't want kids as there is just no point to do so short of raising a family. Ladies, just hit Craigslist and find a gay shopping buddy for that traveling jazz as a gay guy won't try to procreate with you, either.

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Some men assume they're taken (as so many have confessed, here). Others are just plain shy. Still others assume attractive women are bytchez. Lots of excuses for not approaching, though basic shyness isn't really an excuse, it's an issue.
As a guy, you're damned if you do or you don't. Say the wrong thing and you're the target of nutty Columbia Uni mattress carrying fake rape goon or that loon who faked a rape at UVirginia. Yet, these same goons cry that men won't hit on them--good looking and intelligent men that know better, I guess. Even I have to make sure there is some interest before I even bother. Then again, too many times I've been buttered up only to get "Oh, yeah, I'm planning on doing XYZ with my boyfriend for my birthday!"

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Exactly. One of the reasons I'm tentative about trying online dating is because I'm short and know that almost all women filter short guys out of their search, or if they don't, will be disappointed by my height when they meet me. In real life I don't have that problem because if a woman seems receptive to me then I know she thinks I'm cute and isn't completely turned off by my being 5'7". I would've never met these women online.
The bad thing is the homely midget below would still DQ you:




Not really sure how she'd beat me at bouncyball with my 100 lb and a foot of height advantage, but it was worth the laugh!


"Pat, I'd like to spin the wheel. (Spin...$500.) Can I buy an 'L'?"
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Old 07-06-2015, 11:45 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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But there are men who have success with online dating; however, I reckon "success" can have a number of definitions. I came across a fair number of men who dated plenty and even met previous partners online. So it isn't entirely a wash for all men. I do recognize dating, especially online, can be a struggle for a lot of men.
You essentially repeated what I said. I said that they will LIKELY have trouble (meaning that about 80-90% will have trouble).

Usually, the men that do well are the best looking/most photogenic or are able to write the best profile (which is not a skill all men have). I do believe that any man can be successful if he is willing to put in many months of hard work and constantly change around his profile. But even then, you may end up talking to a bunch of flaky women.

Also, as you hinted at in your previous post, there are far more high quality men online than high quality women. Generally, the women have some kind of major issue that prevents them from meeting men IRL.

Better to meet women through work. For me, personally, I'm surrounded by attractive, successful women at work that I can get to know in a more natural setting.
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Old 07-06-2015, 11:47 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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You may hate it, but you can thank your fellow women for it still existing. "We'll lie about how we met!"



Women love to fib about the (not having) kids and their age. Thankfully, people are creatures of habit and their OLD alias can usually be traced to their FB and their pics of their kid(s) and their birthdate/year. That usually comes under the guise of "I entered the wrong year when registering" when it's women nearing 40 hanging onto a thread and trying to live a little longer with the sub-30 crowd.



Right! About the only way you can lose as a woman online is by coming across as a dude showing off your muscles too much or something else silly like this combination:

Intent _________ wants to find someone to marry.
Do you want children? Does not want children



No guy is going to marry a chick too often who doesn't want kids as there is just no point to do so short of raising a family. Ladies, just hit Craigslist and find a gay shopping buddy for that traveling jazz as a gay guy won't try to procreate with you, either.



As a guy, you're damned if you do or you don't. Say the wrong thing and you're the target of nutty Columbia Uni mattress carrying fake rape goon or that loon who faked a rape at UVirginia. Yet, these same goons cry that men won't hit on them--good looking and intelligent men that know better, I guess. Even I have to make sure there is some interest before I even bother. Then again, too many times I've been buttered up only to get "Oh, yeah, I'm planning on doing XYZ with my boyfriend for my birthday!"



The bad thing is the homely midget below would still DQ you:




Not really sure how she'd beat me at bouncyball with my 100 lb and a foot of height advantage, but it was worth the laugh!


"Pat, I'd like to spin the wheel. (Spin...$500.) Can I buy an 'L'?"
Funny thing is that there's a good chance that this girl will be screwed over a lot by attractive men. Then her standards will lower once she is 30. By then, even the guys that she deems unattractive will either be taken or will distrust women and not treat her well.
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Old 07-06-2015, 11:53 PM
 
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What about the average and ugly ones? We need validation too!
That's true. But average women aren't over the top with it they're more humble.
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Old 07-07-2015, 12:40 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Why would a relatively attractive women need to use online dating

Lots of different reasons. Heres one : Easier way to filter out the garbage, than real life.
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Old 07-07-2015, 03:20 AM
 
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The bad thing is the homely midget below would still DQ you:

Not really sure how she'd beat me at bouncyball with my 100 lb and a foot of height advantage, but it was worth the laugh!
I have a hard time believing that profile is even real, but she's allowed to be obnoxious if she wants to be.
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Old 07-07-2015, 05:35 AM
 
Location: Lake George, CO
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I use OLD (but it is fairly recent), has it been successful for me yet? Not really. Why do I use it? I live in a crappy area where I have to drive 15 minutes to run errands, I work at a chemical plant next to many men- but pretty much all of them are married, my commute is long, my hours are long, pretty much all of my friends are married. I do not really get out that often. I am already 30 and still single, so I figured I would possibly waste less time if I used OLD. I have had a few long term relationships that ended with them stringing me along and not really looking to get married to ME, but were fine with just dating me. So I figured I could put what my intentions were with meeting someone right there in the open so I may not meet some more time wasters.
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Old 07-07-2015, 05:41 AM
 
Location: Lake George, CO
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Right! About the only way you can lose as a woman online is by coming across as a dude showing off your muscles too much or something else silly like this combination:

Intent _________ wants to find someone to marry.
Do you want children? Does not want children


No guy is going to marry a chick too often who doesn't want kids as there is just no point to do so short of raising a family. Ladies, just hit Craigslist and find a gay shopping buddy for that traveling jazz as a gay guy won't try to procreate with you, either.
My profile is like this..... And why must men be so judgmental? I have so many reasons why children are not in my future. So many men contact me and that is the first question they ask me. Guys, women are not just baby factories. News flash. The women who have valid reasons why being a mother will not happen, need a special someone just as much as anyone. But that is ok, a man like you would not get a consideration from me. Who needs a closed minded *****?
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